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I feel immense pity for people who do not know how to be alone. People who cannot just live in solitude. People who cannot enjoy their own company. People who are always jumping from one relationship to another because the thought of being lonely scares them. Some of you don’t even know yourself because there’s never been a period in your life where you were just by yourself, sitting with your thoughts and finding time to discover yourself. You always need company to exist. And this is why you cannot live your life without external validation. Whenever I hear people say they cannot go out alone to eat, they can’t go to the movies, restaurant, etc., alone, I feel sad for them. This is your life. You should be able to do everything solo. Sometimes, stay in your house for a week, work out at home, listen to your favorite music, cook or order your favorite meal, read your favorite book, watch your favorite TV show, while sipping wine and dancing even though you know you cannot really dance. You have been wanting to go out, but you keep postponing because you don’t have any friend to go out with you. Why do you keep canceling plans, especially things that’d make you happy, simply because other people aren’t going to be there? Some of you can’t even stay single for 3 months. You leave a relationship and go to the next with baggage and unhealed trauma because you can’t be alone. That is such a sad way to live life. Sometimes, just be by yourself and journal your thoughts. Write out the things you like about yourself, the things you hate about yourself, the things you’d like to improve about yourself, and how to go about that. If I asked you to mention ten things you genuinely love, how long would it take you to mention yourself?