Anna Filippova

. @tatou_ania Will she ever stop? Seems no. First of all, I have not abandoned my daughter. The fact that you or anyone else on the internet does not know when I am in Estonia or how much time I spend with her is very intentional. The world does not need access to my child or my private life. That is for her safety and for mine. And the way you speak about it only shows that you know absolutely nothing about me or my life. You are way too invested in my life and in April’s life, especially in things that are private and none of your business. I don’t sit and think about you, I don’t talk about you, I don’t discuss you with anyone, because I simply don’t have time for that kind of obsession. Second, I am an adult woman. Who I am with or not with, how many people I have been with, even if it was one or a hundred, is not your business and has nothing to do with my work. My work is what I do, what I deliver, and what people can actually see. And one more time, because you keep repeating it — I have never mocked your disability. Show me even one post, one text, one tweet where I have done that. I am still waiting. What is honestly sad to see is that there are people who actually believe this kind of delusion, when even your own story changes every 10 minutes. That must be a very strange world to live in… completely disconnected from reality. I also truly hope that all the organizations and the women you work with are proud to see who represents them and the Ukrainian army, and the way you speak to people and treat them. What you are doing is something completely different. It looks like a very sad need to focus on other people’s lives because there is not much happening in your own. Honestly, you should seek help. Because this level of obsession and hate is not normal.

I honestly do not understand why one grown woman has such an unhealthy obsession with other grown women’s bodies, asses, vaginas, and sexual lives. I find it disturbing, not empowering, not brave, not “speaking truth” but it is just sick. This level of fixation says nothing about the people she is talking about but shows everything about what is going on inside her own head. Normal, balanced people do not spend their time publicly speculating about other people’s sex lives, health, or bodies. This is not criticism. This is harassment. This is not concern. This is obsession. And dragging sexuality, misogyny, and humiliation into volunteer and military spaces is exactly the kind of behaviour that poisons communities and helps no one, least of all Ukraine. I am not interested in responding to vulgarity with vulgarity. I am not interested in explaining my private life to strangers. And I am definitely not interested in normalising this kind of behaviour. People who are actually doing the work don’t need to sexualise, insult, or dehumanise others to feel relevant.

Yes, Tatou Ania is right about one thing, and maybe this is the only thing where I actually agree with her. You really should be careful when choosing your heroes, because sooner or later they will show you who they really are. What people don’t see behind the loud words and the public image is that the harassment and bullying from her side has been going on for over a year already. Quietly, persistently, crossing lines again and again, testing how much someone can take before they break or finally speak up. So yes, choose your heroes carefully. Not by how they present themselves online, not by how loudly they talk about values, but by how they treat others when they think no one is watching. Because that is where the truth always comes out.

At one moment you are handing over a car to a medic, smiling, believing it will help save lives. And in the next moment you are sharing a collection to support his parents and his funeral. This war does not give time to process, to understand, to breathe. It just takes. It takes the best ones, the kind ones, the people who were there to save others. Rest in peace, hero. You will never be forgotten. Support his family here: send.monobank.ua/jar/9i6puvK…