omoge

Their entire lives revolve around keeping a man comfortable, even when it comes at the expense of their own happiness. And the frustrating part is that they will raise daughters, watch them fight for independence, and still call them disrespectful for refusing to live the same way. Some of our mothers don’t just tolerate male dominance; they actively defend it. And that is one of the hardest cycles to break.

I said, “Mummy, how can you be comfortable with a man dictating what you can and cannot do at your age?” She replied, “He is my husband! Whatever he tells me, I will do. If he says I shouldn’t go, I won’t go. Please learn to mind your business.” I was shocked. I asked, “So why did you even tell me in the first place?” She said, “I only wanted to talk. I didn’t tell you because I wanted you to disrespect your father.” Ladies and gentlemen, I am beginning to realise that some of our mothers are so deeply male-centred that they will complain about how a man treats them, cry about how unhappy they are, and still turn around to defend his authority the moment someone challenges it.

My mum called me yesterday and said, “Rhoda, your father has refused to let me travel for my friend’s daughter’s wedding. Can you imagine? At my age, I still have to deal with this kind of thing.” She was crying and complaining bitterly, and honestly, I got angry listening to her. So I called my dad immediately. I said, “Daddy, why are you always trying to control Mummy? Why does she have to seek your permission for everything? She’s an adult. Why are you always so authoritative?” I spoke to him angrily and ended the call, feeling like I had finally stood up for my mother. A few minutes later, my mum called again. “Rhoda, are you mad? Why would you talk to your father like that?”