author of @NYTimes best seller HUNT, GATHER, PARENT https://xitter.cf/t.co/63gQAudHz1 | mental health correspondent @npr | phd @ucberkeley | @caltechalumni
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Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD retweeted
Amazing work @FoodieScience! We're delighted to inform you that "Hunt, Gather, Parent" made it to the list of best Parent books of all time! bookauthority.org/books/best…
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As a champion ignorer of my own kids and an enemy of programmed childhood "fun," I wrote a piece for @NYT on why underparenting can reduce parental stress and boost kids' resilience. Down with fun, up with boredom! nytimes.com/2024/09/15/opini…
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Have you ever known you're dreaming while you're asleep? Our guests try practices to help induce lucid dreams, and we hear what they can teach us about consciousness. Listen now: tinyurl.com/sohdreams
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Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD retweeted
4. In this @NPR episode, @FoodieScience explores how the surge in smartphone and social media use has affected teen #MentalHealth, contributing to increased rates of anxiety and depression. 📱 🧠
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Thank you @MichaelEMann @billmckibben @FoodieScience @sahdootmd @DmnqBrowning @RebeccaSolnit @JulieKaplow @JenniVanos @ASUHondula @AAPNevada @NVCCAction @docsforclimate @LeannMcAllister @LoriByron2 @alan_deutschman @GovsTaskForce and many others
The people least responsible for climate change are going to pay the most.
Dr. Debra Hendrickson (@climatepeds24) urges us to save the planet for our youngest citizens in THE AIR THEY BREATHE, a timely look at climate change's impact on children: spr.ly/6012gpiCk
Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD retweeted
Every parent MUST listen to this podcast by @farnamstreet & @FoodieScience. I learned so much and feel so seen, and feel so aligned with my lessons from a new baby and frustrations from the way "it's done" in Western Society.
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Michaeleen Doucleff: What You Need to Teach Your Kids If You Want Them to Be Successful Adults
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#7Takeaways
1. Western parenting has veered off course, often neglecting children's core needs and the parent-child relationship. Many common Western parenting practices are unique and potentially detrimental.
2. The TEAM approach (Togetherness, Encouragement, Autonomy, Minimal interference) offers an alternative parenting style based on observations of traditional cultures.
3. Children have an innate desire to help and contribute. Parents should welcome and encourage this from an early age rather than pushing children away from household tasks.
4. Excessive praise is a recent Western phenomenon and may not be necessary or beneficial. Instead, focus on allowing children to contribute meaningfully and feel intrinsically rewarded.
5. Autonomy is crucial for child development. Parents should aim to provide children with increasing levels of independence appropriate to their age and abilities.
6. Technology use, especially screens and social media, poses significant challenges for modern parenting. It's important to set boundaries, delay introduction when possible, and educate children about the impacts of technology.
7. Parental actions and choices, even subtle ones, transmit values to children. Parents should be mindful of what their behaviors are communicating about priorities and values.
Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD retweeted
It begins!
In Oak Park, IL, 55 parents are banding together to give their kids more freedom in the real world.
“I am so much more concerned about what happens on the internet than I am about what happens at the park,” one said.
You can do this too!
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Exploring timeless parenting wisdom with 'Hunt, Gather, Parent' by Michaeleen Doucleff. 📖. Transform your parenting with global insights! #ParentingTips #BookReview @NPR
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New tricks and tools can make cognitively demanding tasks less painful, writes @FoodieScience wsj.com/health/wellness/thin… a través de @WSJ
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IRONY ALERT!
@FoodieScience, author of the great "Hunt, Gather, Parent," sent Rosy, 7, out to ride her bike...and the COPS BROUGHT HER HOME.
Here's part of the extraordinary interview Michaeleen Doucleff did with @JonHaidt:
MD: How do you give children more independence when our law enforcement, our neighborhood and our communities aren't used to it?
JH: Parents need to act collectively:
Step 1: We need to change laws in states to make it explicit that giving your kids independence cannot be taken as evidence of neglect on its own. We've already passed that law in eight states [Utah, Texas, Oklahoma, Colorado, Virginia, Connecticut, Illinois and Montana]. It's being considered in many others.
Step 2: We then have to change group-level norms. And we can do that with what's called the Let Grow Experience. You encourage your elementary school administrators to download the materials from Let Grow [a nonprofit organization that Haidt co-founded to foster childhood independence]. That material gives teachers instructions for assigning kids a specific type of homework. Teachers tell children, "Go home, talk with your parents and find something ...you've never been allowed to do before. Something you think you can do by yourself."
MD: Like going to the store on their bike a few blocks away?
JH: Exactly. Children agree with parents on what the task is. And then the child does this type of assignment once a month for six months.
The brilliant part of this challenge is that it changes the norms. Before you know it, it's normal to see an 8-year-old carrying a quart of milk. It's normal to see a 9-year-old on a bicycle — that's how you change the norms.
READ THE WHOLE INTERVIEW HERE. INCLUDES LINK FOR YOU TO A "KID LICENSE" FOR YOUR OWN KIDS:
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Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD retweeted
Hunt, Gather, Parent by @FoodieScience is incredible.
It's the best parenting book I've read in my brief 2 years as a father.
Every suggestion in the book deeply resonated with me.
However, I don't think it's enough to just fit these techniques and philosophies to modern life within the home.
They have to be applied outside the home, too.
One key thing underpins the parenting success of the non-Western cultures discussed - family and community structure.
Families are large, supported by grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins.
Communities are deeply rooted and close knit. Everyone knows everyone. They benefit from common, shared values passed down from generation to generation.
Western society doesn't align with this.
Modern work, the cost of living, and frictionless mobility have isolated and strained the Nuclear Family, which isn't designed to sustain these pressures.
It's why we westerners have never felt so alone and stressed.
Hunt, Gather, Parent is a great resource for raising kids within the home, but it also challenged me to evaluate how I can broaden that experience to include extended family and community.
Thank you @FoodieScience for helping me see.
Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD retweeted
CHASSEUR, CUEILLEUR, PARENT de Michaeleen Douclieff @FoodieScience aux @Editions_Homme #Parent #HuntGatherParent #NBF3U
Exploration des méthodes éducatives des Mayas #Mexique Inuits #Artique et Hadza #Tanzanie. Et si les Occidentaux avaient tout faux en matière d'éducation?
Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD retweeted
Anecdote IS evidence. When my children get excessive screen time they are more impulsive, irrational and emotive. Emotions are amplified. Anger becomes angrier. Sadness becomes sadder. Screen time has been limited to 2 hrs on the weekends, and it's amazing how they come up with things to entertain themselves in the absence of them.
Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD retweeted
Indigenous cultures have been raising happy, helpful, well-adjusted children free of depression, anxiety, stress etc for 10,000+ years. That’s probably a better place to start looking for insight into what produces successful children, families, and communities.
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NPR science correspondent Michaeleen Doucleff @FoodieScience says the key to happy kids and happy parents is 'doing less'.
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Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD retweeted
New-ish parents and parents-to-be: if you read one parenting book, make it "Hunt, Gather, Parent" by @FoodieScience.
It's GENIUS. It's about what ancient cultures can teach us about raising happy, helpful humans. A sample of insights:
▪️Instead of chores, teach the ultimate Mayan skill of "acomedido" — the ability to pay attention to one's surroundings, recognize when chore needs to be done, and do them
▪️If a child misbehaves, they need more responsibility — instead of telling them to stop whining, give them a job
▪️Perhaps American kids don't listen because their parents are always shouting
▪️If a child doesn't listen (and you're not shouting), perhaps they're not ready for the lesson
▪️The less you demand of a child's attention, the less they'll demand of yours
▪️The goal of Inuit education is to trigger thought
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Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD retweeted
What advise is the same in the books: "hunter gatherers guide to the 21st century" and "hunt, gather, parent"?
@BretWeinstein @FoodieScience
Both were excellent.
My AI bard said it didn't read them...lazy AI.
Michaeleen Doucleff, PhD retweeted
En pleine lecture de ce livre pour tenter d’attraper certains outils mais surtout capter certaines réflexions, voyager dans d’autres cultures et y trouver des éléments enrichissants sur les modes d’éducation. Un écrit passionnant, merci @FoodieScience pour ce partage !
