@OBEhizele

Lewisham born and bred| Essayist| Bylines in @Telegraph @NewStatesman @unherd @spikedonline @spectator |Member of St Peter's Church, Brockley

 London, England
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Joined May 2011
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First proper piece of my "Black Belonging" series. My legacy to the next generation. See following tweet for full piece.
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My biggest fear for civilisation is that people genuinely don't know how to cultivate a shared life together. Wanting something is different from having the psychological, moral and relational tools to understand what you need and how to pursue it.
Amy Eileen Hamm
@preta_6Oct 22
Debating how much I want to weigh in on this femosphere issue. I hate how flippantly these women describe divorce. I hate that I might, as a divorced woman, be implicated in this cultural narrative. Divorce is serious — and sometimes the only or best option. There’s nothing fun about it. It’s nice that people argue that divorced women aren’t used-up trash. But when people start acting like the commitment of marriage/family means nothing, they’re essentially encouraging people to be selfish jerks who see relationships as purely transactional. “Just move on and find someone better” is a detestable way to look at commitment. I wouldn’t change the course of my life — because I ended up with two perfect sons. But I do reflect upon my former naivety when it came to knowing myself and knowing what sort of person I could/should build a life with. I don’t think I had a proper understanding of what I needed to give or receive. Currently, I wish there was a better cultural narrative for young women to absorb than this crap. Such vapid commentary from “Call Her Daddy” certainly won’t spare anyone from making bad choices.
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We are forming people to live in ways that undermine the very relationships they desperately desire. People seem to understand belonging (marriage in this context) as something they should experience, rather than something they must participate in creating.
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Mediation doesn't necessarily require an absence of convictions. It requires the ability to understand competing perspectives without immediately reducing one to a caricature.
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Outside of those in Britain, I know that Sunday Oliseh (Ajax/Juventus) and Seyi Olofinjana (Wolves/Stoke) played in Nigeria's domestic league while attending university. Wilfred Ndidi also studied at De Montfort University while playing for Leicester. But rare indeed.
Dan Jackson
@northumbrianaOct 23
Other former university students to make it in professional football? I’m thinking Bill Slater, Alan Gowling, Steve Heighway, Brian Hall, Martin O’Neill, Steve Coppell, David Wetherall, Barry Horne. Any others? Interesting that it’s still a rarity …
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One thing I’ve found fascinating about social media is discovering how formative experiences vary across Britain, shaped by local conditions. Someone raised in Lewisham and another in Oldham may develop very different understandings of social mobility, integration and identity.
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😂
AFC Bournemouth 🍒
@afcbournemouthOct 22
Sentences you’ve never heard before: AFC Bournemouth have beaten AC Milan.
Full-time: AFC Bournemouth 3-0 AC Milan.

ALT Full-time: AFC Bournemouth 3-0 AC Milan.

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I felt this walking through the Nigerian Modernism exhibition at Tate Modern. You could resonate with the struggles around identity and belonging. Artists seeking to make sense of a newly independent nation, navigating competing ethnic, cultural and national identities.
.@OmgemeralddddOct 21
I saw a post on Reddit that said, “When you walk through a museum, you’re not just looking at art. You’re moving through centuries of people trying to explain love, grief, power, beauty, and belonging.” I don’t think I’ve ever seen a museum described so beautifully.
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It has been eye-opening to discover how much time a PM can seem to have on their hands. I used to imagine these roles were so demanding that there would be little time for promotional appearances such as this or LADbible.
Politics UK
@PolitlcsUKOct 22
🚨 NEW: Andy Burnham will appear on Channel 4’s Goggle Box tomorrow night with Liverpool Mayor Steve Rotheram
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Multiculturalism is now such an unhelpful term. I find people use it to mean three very different things: a society with people of different ethnic backgrounds, an ideology promoting cultural diversity, or a society where different communities live largely separate lives.
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Christianity has not simply shaped what British people believed in the past. It has also helped shape how British people live together. I think that is what Kruger is trying to articulate. Why do some find this so objectionable? Lol.
Danny Kruger
@danny__krugerOct 21
What unites us? Not ethnicity. A common commitment to the country built by former generations. And the foundation of this building - in which people of all faiths can live - is Christianity.
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Of course, Christianity was not the only influence on British/English sensibilities. Anglo-Saxon customs, classical philosophy, the Enlightenment and industrialisation all played their part. But these influences did not develop in isolation from Christianity.
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The understanding of the neighbour, the parish system, education, the rhythms of life (Christmas, marriage customs, funeral rites), architecture and the moral imagination. These are all aspects of a Christian inheritance that have helped bind people into a shared life.
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This is actually the problem. There are rarely any meaningful intergenerational conversations happening. It’s always “who has it worse”. This man is a poor fit; VERY ignorant and VERY shouty. This isn’t meant to move the conversation forwards, it’s purely for entertainment.
Matthew
@OswaldsTopGuyOct 21
You don't hate boomers enough
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I am now the face of my friend's gym. 😄
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One of the most interesting things about my Substack is that I have readers across conservative and progressive circles. I receive invitations to events from both. I suspect part of the reason is that people don't necessarily read my work as hostile to their views.
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I try to challenge people's thinking without condemning them personally. My aim isn't to tell people they're wrong, but to encourage them to consider perspectives they might otherwise overlook.
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I genuinely don't understand how people find the time to argue over trivial things on this app. I've got so much I'm trying to do in life that I can't imagine spending that much time going back and forth over opinions. Most of the time, I only respond out of politeness.
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The irony is that the defence of slavery using scripture was itself "human morality" in action. Scripture did not interpret itself. Human beings interpreted it through the moral assumptions of their time.
God Questioner
@God_QuestionerOct 19
Slavery was defended using scripture for thousands of years; human morality had to abolish what holy texts endorsed.
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There is you as an individual, then the household you were raised in and its immediate environment, and finally wider society. Agency, whilst important, can only take you so far because, much of the time, we had little say in the formative spaces that shaped how we exercise it.
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It's frightening. For mass democracy to function effectively, it requires a literate population.
.@OmgemeralddddOct 20
The literacy crisis isn’t that people can’t read the words. It’s that they can’t understand the context, infer meaning, recognise nuance, identify contradictions, or draw logical conclusions from what they’ve read
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