Boipelo Mbiko

My husband said he was tired of feeling like a beggar for sex in his own marriage. My response made him walk out of the bedroom. At 2 a.m., he woke me up and asked if I wanted to be intimate. I told him I was exhausted and wanted to sleep. He turned away without arguing. The next morning, he barely spoke to me. When I asked what was wrong, he finally said: “Do you know how humiliating it feels to keep reaching for your own wife and constantly get turned down?” I was immediately irritated. I told him, “Nobody forced you to marry me. And I certainly didn’t promise you unlimited access to my body.” He stared at me. Then he said something I wasn’t expecting: “I know you don’t owe me sex. But did you ever stop to think that I might be tired of feeling unwanted too?” I laughed bitterly and replied: