The lie that “if a woman cannot control you, she will hate you” has been repeated so much that some men are now entering marriage already prepared for war. They aren't going into marriage looking for a partner. They're going in looking for an enemy. They have been taught to expect manipulation, so they begin to scrutinise everything their wives do, searching for signs of control. A simple suggestion becomes a power struggle. A reasonable disagreement becomes a battle of egos. Even when the woman makes a valid point, he may oppose her simply because agreeing with her feels like surrendering his authority. Imagine living with someone who interprets your every suggestion as an attempt to dominate him. How do you build anything with a person who sees cooperation as weakness and compromise as defeat? You cannot build a peaceful home with someone who is constantly preparing to defend himself against you. If your wife cannot make a suggestion without you suspecting an ulterior motive, and you cannot agree with her without feeling that she has gained power over you, what exactly are you building together? The goal of marriage is not to defeat your partner. It is to build a life where neither of you has to fight the other to be heard. Stop teaching people to enter marriage battle-ready. You cannot build a home with someone you have already decided is your enemy.