TayAfterDark

A submissive is not a lesser human. I want to be very clear about this, because the message seems to be often confused. A submissive is someone who is their 'best self' - doing their best work, most at peace, most mentally and emotionally balanced, most functional, most fulfilled, most satisfied - when they are serving, obeying, and pleasing their chosen dominant. In my world view, a 'slave' (it's still a crappy term and I wish we had a better one) is simply a submissive who is fortunate enough to have found a dominant 'Master' who they are able to serve 24/7/365. Degrading a sub/slave for the way they prefer to behave to feel the most fulfilled, is not a necessary part of this equation. Degradation, which is treating another person like a less valid creature, 'worth less', is a KINK, not a relationship style. It's a very valid kink that many people enjoy, don't get me wrong, but it's not a necessary part of D/s or M/s. There is no inherent reason a person deserves to be degraded simply because they function best in a support role. Submissives, if a 'Master' or 'Dominant' treats you like human garbage because you enjoy serving, obeying, and pleasing, recognize that is a choice they are making to layer on a 'degradation kink' on top of dominance and submission, that does not need to be there. Dominants, if you believe all people who enjoy serving are lesser humans, you're a small-minded bigot. Quit it. In short, yes dear submissives, you CAN find a Master who treats you well if you want one; if you don't also get off on the kink of being degraded, and simply want to serve, obey, and please, and prefer to be respected and dignified for it. And to all reading, please educate yourself, and stop confusing dynamics and preferred relationship styles, with kinks.