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Erika Totten (she/they)

@ToLiveUnchained

Spiritual Life Coach helping BIPOC folks process racial stress, break free from self-limiting beliefs, & create lives rooted in joy, authenticity + liberation.

 Washington, DC
erikatotten.norby.live/
Joined November 2010
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“Protect Black Women” also means identifying, unlearning and healing all the things WITHIN YOU that cause us harm. Good Morning.
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َ@ungodlywests9 May 2023
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I DID IT Y'ALL. I LAUNCHED MY PODCAST. The #AfterYouFail podcast is an interview series created to destigmatize failure and help us be more kind to ourselves. Episode one features @Everette Taylor. Stream via Spotify, Apple, or YouTube: bit.ly/3LLaxvR
Image from my book is better than my tweets (@MichellCClark)
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Nneka M. Okona 🇳🇬@afrosypaella9 May 2023
It is very possible to think you’re a better communicator than you actually are. I find that folk who intellectualize their emotions a lot have a lot of internal dialogue that ~feels~ like they’re being forthright when actually the “communication” is internalized.
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BEAM@_beamorg8 May 2023
We are partnering again with the @saks foundation to offer awards of $10K to 3 orgs supporting the mental health & wellness of Black Girls ages 10-19! There is just not ENOUGH focus on Black girls wellness & we want to help change that! Apply here: beam.community/grants/
Illustration of 3 young, Black girls with afros at the bottom of the page, their hair stretches out across the graphic in a purple and orange gradient Black Girls Wellness Grant Black Wellness innovation fund BEAM and the Saks Fifth Avenue Foundation are offering three awards to support the wellness of Black girls Who should apply? Non-profit organizations that focus on innovative models of wellness, mental health, and social support care for young, Black girls, ages 10-19 years old Application deadline /// May 30, 2023 Learn more & apply // [beam.community/grants](http://beam.community/grants) BEAM logo and Saks Fifth Avenue foundation logo.

ALT Illustration of 3 young, Black girls with afros at the bottom of the page, their hair stretches out across the graphic in a purple and orange gradient Black Girls Wellness Grant Black Wellness innovation fund BEAM and the Saks Fifth Avenue Foundation are offering three awards to support the wellness of Black girls Who should apply? Non-profit organizations that focus on innovative models of wellness, mental health, and social support care for young, Black girls, ages 10-19 years old Application deadline /// May 30, 2023 Learn more & apply // [beam.community/grants](http://beam.community/grants) BEAM logo and Saks Fifth Avenue foundation logo.

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Ernest Owens
@MrErnestOwens6 May 2023
Another season, another example of Chris Brown being unapologetically violent. This time, y'all might actually care because he has now attacked a MAN y'all care about.
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"I desperately need you to hold the other end of the rope. To hang on tightly while I thrash on the other end—while I find the handholds and footholds in this new world I feel like I am in."
Erika Totten (she/they) (@ToLiveUnchained) profile pictureErika Totten (she/they)@ToLiveUnchained5 May 2023
Our family therapist shared this article with us - "The Letter Your Teenager Can't Write You". Definitely increased our understanding and helped ease some frustration we've been feeling. Thought somebody here might find it helpful too💛 gretchenschmelzer.com/parent…
The Letter Your Teenager Can't Write You — Gretchen Schmelzer

The Letter Your Teenager Can't Write You — Gretchen Schmelzer

Dear Parent: This is the letter I wish I could write.  This fight we are in right now. I need it. I need this fight. I can’t tell you this because I don’t have the language for it and it wouldn’t...

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"This is the fight that will teach me that my shadow is not bigger than my light."
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Our family therapist shared this article with us - "The Letter Your Teenager Can't Write You". Definitely increased our understanding and helped ease some frustration we've been feeling. Thought somebody here might find it helpful too💛 gretchenschmelzer.com/parent…
The Letter Your Teenager Can't Write You — Gretchen Schmelzer

The Letter Your Teenager Can't Write You — Gretchen Schmelzer

Dear Parent: This is the letter I wish I could write.  This fight we are in right now. I need it. I need this fight. I can’t tell you this because I don’t have the language for it and it wouldn’t...

gretchenschmelzer.com
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Chlöe Source@thechloesource4 May 2023
Chloe gave Halle the microphone to sing “Cool People” with her tonight during the final song of the #InPiecesTour. ♥️🥹
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White people truly believe that in the absence of “proper authorities” they’re in charge. Especially if Black people are involved. It shows in everything they do.
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@[email protected]@Imani_Barbarin3 May 2023
TW: Lynching The lynching of Jordan Neely is what happens when you blame every violent thing that happens in this country on mental illness because while it excuses violent behavior from white people, it criminalizes mental illness in Black people. The man who choked him
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BEAM@_beamorg1 May 2023
May is Mental Health Month!! We are reminding us all that we have a right to rest, to systems of care that center healing and not profit, and to systems that nourish our lives! Healing is our birthright, this month and every month of the year! ✊🏾🫂💛 #BEAM #MentalHealthMonth
Illustration of three Black people sitting in a field of grass. Person in the bottom left is holding a watering can Text reads: Healing is our birthright

ALT Illustration of three Black people sitting in a field of grass. Person in the bottom left is holding a watering can Text reads: Healing is our birthright

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BLH
@_RareDefined30 Apr 2023
“America, look at my nieces and nephew.” — Bernie Mac
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kemi
@kemimarie29 Apr 2023
having a family that’s full of affection and love is truly a blessing. affection, cuddles, tons of kisses, nose kisses, long hugs, group cuddles. positive affirmation. it really helps how you move through this world and see acts of love + intimacy. it’s so beautiful
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Yolo Akili@YoloAkili28 Apr 2023
May is mental health month & Black Healing Remixed is back!!This year its all about Black women & girls!! 😍 Join us as we discuss birthing,colorism, bipolar, transphobia, abolition, adultification, entertainment & more! In person L.A & virtual: remix.beam.community
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ALT ### Image Description Graphic has a pink-purple gradient background color with BEAM’s logo at the bottom center that reads Black Emotional and Mental Health Collective. At the center of the graphic there is a collage of headshots depicting various Black women of different skin tones including guests Nic Stone and Laura Harrier. Text reads: Black women & girls Wellness Day Wellness activities, panel conversations, kids zone & more *all genders welcome / Sat. May 20, 2023 11am-3pm PT / E.K Art Gallery 1125 Crenshaw Blvd. Los Angeles, CA 90019 remix.beam.community

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Wiz Antifa@EliSeeney27 Apr 2023
Replying to @Kyla_Lacey
He really told on himself with the “then it becomes about how she feels about what I said not the shit I said…” let’s review the definition of emotional intelligence…
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Khristina@Khristina27 Apr 2023
Brittney Griner on whether she plans to go overseas to play basketball in the future: “I’m never going overseas to play again unless I’m representing my country at the Olympics.”
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