when i cut somebody off, my life doesn’t suddenly fall apart. that’s the difference. i don’t keep people around because i’m scared of needing to start over. i’m solid all by myself, so access to me is a privilege not a necessity.

eye contact + fingers intertwined while fvcking >>>>>

narcissists can turn the consequences of their own behavior into evidence against you. they mistreat you until you withdraw, then point to your withdrawal as proof that you're cold, disloyal, or incapable of commitment. your reaction becomes the distraction from their behavior