In 2023 he met a woman in Lagos. They started as long-distance friends. He held back from a full relationship because he didn’t know what she was doing while they were apart. She visited him, the connection was instant, then she dropped the news: she had just secured permanent residency in Canada and wanted him to come with her. He was wary. He’d heard the stories of men left stranded on someone else’s visa. He declined and said he’d apply on his own. When he told her he didn’t have money for a flight to see her off, she paid for it (₦300k). He saw her off to the airport. After she left for Canada he sent the money back plus ₦200k interest because the gesture touched him. A year later his own PR came through. His sisters were already in Ontario and friends were in other Canadian cities, but he chose to land in the city where only she was. Before he flew they had agreed: he would come, they would move in together, she would take care of him. He felt chosen. He was already planning to propose. The first few weeks were good. He stayed in the house she shared with her single elder sister while he house-hunted. Then the sister started giving him some irritating looks. He told her it made him uncomfortable; she waved it off. He found his own place and brought up the move-in plans. She said he hadn’t proposed and that he needed to “see her people” first; specifically her other elder sister who lived in the same city with her family. When he reminded her they already had an agreement, she said she couldn’t just move like that; her family would frown on it. He felt betrayed but kept pushing. He shifted focus to finding work and slowed down on the marriage talk because the speed he arrived with wasn’t being matched. The relationship deteriorated badly. For a full year he has been on his own in that city. When he tried to make male friends she screamed at him for taking a guy’s number who wanted to add him to a local hangout group. She has blocked him simply for not answering his phone. From the start she weaponized the fact that he came knowing only her. He describes himself as living inside his mistake, mentally exhausted, almost not going to work some days, and seriously considering asking his boss for a transfer to a city where he has friends, or quitting outright. Both are 32 (she is older by a month). I asked him: "I believe that you already know what my advise will be, don't you?" He said he already knew the advice that was coming because he has been an ardent follower, and that coming to Canada for her has been his biggest mistake. The reply he received was direct: leave that city, go back to where you have friends and family, forget that woman, and don’t contact her again. He thanked me, said it has been a long year, wondered out loud if he will ever get married in Canada, and asked to be kept in thoughts even if I don’t know him. Do you think he should cut contact and relocate, or is there a smarter way for him to rebuild in Canada without her? End.

Who is this man? I just dey look as the wife dey look am. Oga no send the wife at all 😂😂😂