Lissa Collier

Today is #DivorceDay - if you are facing divorce, I shared my experience of how to do it amicably in my book Big Girl Pants. I hope it helps you! amazon.co.uk/Big-Girl-Pants-…

Do you buy a Father’s Day present for your ex on behalf of your kids? #divorce #FathersDay

Also for anyone watching #TheSplit3 & who feels inspired to make their divorce amicable, I wrote a book on how to do it based on my personal diaries. amazon.co.uk/Big-Girl-Pants-…

Just finished #TheSplit3. There may have been tears 😭 because it was so bang on how it feels to divorce & to try and do it amicably, even though not always easy. Amazing show

Great news. bbc.co.uk/news/uk-61004089

It’s #WorldBookDay - for anyone needing advice on how to divorce amicably, I wrote a book on it. Big Girl Pants: My personal journey of getting through divorce amicably, and how you can too amazon.co.uk/dp/B08QGHSGKY/r…

Delighted to be able to chat to @rachel_peru on her Out of the Bubble podcast about how to get through divorce amicably … & how to find love again. ❤️

#journorequest - anyone doing a round up of useful tools to help get through #divorce (divorce rates go up in Jan), check out Big Girl Pants - a real life guide on how to divorce amicably amzn.to/3Hl9qzc

Many people make the decision to get #divorced in January. If you’re one of them or perhaps have had the decision made for you, read Big Girl Pants for real life advice on how to #divorce amicably amzn.to/3Hl9qzc

The joy of solitude #singledom #LifeAfterDivorce link.medium.com/wsNJwKN8Tib

Get Big Girl Pants here >>amazon.co.uk/Big-Girl-Pants-…

Rule 5. Keep f*cking going: this may feel relentless but eventually it will pass. You’re doing great. Just keep on going. There is so much happiness on the other side.

Rule 4. Look after yourself: it can be exhausting trying to let shit go. Emotionally draining. Look after you. Get out for a walk. Shout at sheep or talk to a therapist, whatever you need to keep your head (and body) in a good place.

Rule 3. Let that shit go: it will be so tempting to play tit for tat or to argue your side. But all that does is add fuel to the fire. Let their comments or negativity land in the bin. Keep communications functional and unemotive. Do not engage or take the bait.

Rule 2. Life’s not fair suck, it up: it’s not fair that your ex is behaving like that but you can’t control them. All you can do is control how you react to them.

Rule 1. Keep your eyes on the prize: Remember the outcome you want e.g. happy, well adjusted kids

What do you do in that situation? Revisit the five rules as best you can:

In my case my ex is on the same page as me. But I’ve seen too often a scenario where one party is doing their best to remain amicable but they are thwarted every step of the way by their ex who is determined to make it as challenging as possible.

In my book Big Girl Pants, I share five rules that will help you remain amicable when getting divorced. But it can become challenging when your ex doesn’t follow those rules too. #AmicableDivorce #Thread

If anyone is writing about recovering from betrayal following #MattHancock’s affair with his aide, I have written a book about my own experience of this. Happy to chat #journorequest