Sarah Osy Osanyinlusi |

WHY MANY MEN DIES EARLY Recently, my mind ran through a lot. I thought of a lot of women whose husband died long ago: 10, 20, or even 30 years ago and their wives are still alive. Many of them remarried but some did not. Hmmm! Some of the men that I knew died of high blood pressure, strokes or heart failure. The heart has taken too much. They have taken on too many responsibilities. They have bottled up too much pressure. I believe many men died early because they did not look after themselves, hardly do medical checkups, do not eat well, sleep well, or exercised well. They have houses that they pay its mortgage, its rent, or that they have fully paid for but they are hardly there whilst the women look after themselves and are usually at home. Restlessness kills! Many men are trying to be a man because they don't want to be vulnerable. When they have financial pressures, they don’t cry out. They try to carry the family responsibilities when they know they don’t have the capacity. Brother, allow your wife to help you by making some financial contributions. A lot of men are going through domestic abuse but they do not cry out. I know of a Nigerian billionaire who sometimes sleeps in his car or a hotel because his wife is so troublesome. I know the wife very well. The man will not leave her because of the children. He said the woman will mess up their lives. I wept the last time I spoke to him. Some of you reading this are being abused by your wives but you cannot cry out because of shame. You are dying little by little. Go and see a psychologist. Get Therapy. Get counseling. Confide in a friend that your woman is troubling you. Don’t die now. You may need to run for your life in order to survive. Some of you reading this know that your mother was partly responsible for your father’s premature death. A lot of men are developing prostate cancer because they have been starved of sex by their wives for a long time and the men do not want to commit adultery. Many have died in the process. But let me ask you, of what use is a relationship that will cut your life short and allow the woman who cut your life short to enjoy all the fruits of your labor with another man whom she will be worshipping? Why should you not be there for your children and enjoy the fruits of your labor? If you die, you die for nothing. Cry out and get the help that you need. There is no enjoyment in the grave. Once you are gone you are gone. When you cry out, you will live longer. Today is Men’s Day in my writing and do not trouble me on domestic violence against women. I have written a lot about that over the years. So, rest! Dele Olawanle is my name. I think, write and speak to make lives better. Follow me for more insights and inspiration.