The sisSTAR Loop

For years I was completely detached from life. I called it: being on my spaceship. How I Got Out Of Dissociation: I feel into a pattern of dissociating at a young age. I would look like I was there, but I was lost in my my mind. Numb. And a million miles away. It wasn't until my partner said to me "are you really here?" when I realized my lack of presence was known. I'd always wondered why I lacked memories. I had almost no memories of my childhood and when friends brought up things I just couldn't remember the way they did. At one point I thought I had a rare brain disorder (no joke.) Finally, I started studying functional freeze. Most people have heard of fight or flight. Freeze when our body becomes dissociated to stay safe. We're physically present but mentally gone. Getting out of my dissociated state meant pattern interruptions. Getting out of autopilot... I started a morning routine of journaling. Next, I created a conscious check in. One time of day where I was fully in my body. Nothing all smells, sounds, and sensations around me. I had to teach myself it was safe to be in the moment. I still teach this 7 years later in @selfhealerscirc Next, I prioritized sleep and nutrition. I put myself to bed really and woke up early. We're more likely dissociate when our body is low on resources. Which is why sleep and nutrition are key in healing this pattern. If you dissociate, you're not alone. You do not have a disorder. Your body its trying to protect you. You can come out of the frozen state and start to live again with small steps every day. Retweet for awareness.

Walking away is hard. It's also a sign of self respect. When it's time to end a relationship:

I wish less people glorified accomplishing things before 30. More exploring. More starting over at 40. More finding your true passion at 50. More moving across the country at 60. People get complacent because they think life has a time limit. It doesn't. Celebrate lifelong evolution.

Women are conditioned to be pleasers. And it's making us sick. Why We Need To Wake Up:

You feel numb, stuck, hopeless, and completely disconnected from life. You're in functional freeze. HOW TO GET OUT:

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4. You’re taking care of your body: you’re conscious of how much sleep you get, what you eat, you’re moving your body, and setting boundaries.

The way people treat other people is a reflection of their own: - emotional maturity - self awareness - past experiences - nervous system state

How To (Actually) Regulate Your Emotions A STEP BY STEP GUIDE:

Symptoms of complex trauma: - inability to concentrate - harsh inner critic - relationship issues (mostly with trust) - low motivation, high procrastination (freeze state) - inability to self soothe— high rates of addiction or self punishment (eating disorders, self harm)

Self esteem is starts to develop 4 years old. Here's How You Can Have More Self Esteem:

Who we choose to partner with is a reflection of our own emotional development. The more we mature, the more we attract the mature. The more we heal, the more we attract the healing.

You can't be a parent to your parents. The parent wound can have you feeling like you're raising your parent or responsible for their happiness. Here's Why You're Not: