This hits the nail on the head and "the compounding interest of accumulating dysfunction" is immediately entering our household lexicon
As someone to whom this does not come naturally I believe women but also moms in particular do this bc they have an acute awareness of the compounding interest of accumulating dysfunction. It’s vivid to them bc they bear the brunt of it, and it can accumulate from nothing rapidly
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Much of this is true in fact, but I want to add this: I spend a lot of time in assisted living facilities, and my patients generally still want to live. Even the ones who are bedbound, incontinent, dementia-stricken, 96 years old, etc. Not all of them, but most do.
“Multigenerational living” will not save you from the nursing home once you’re old enough and sick enough.
The way you end up in a nursing home is having a stroke or huge medical issue when you’re in your late eighties, which was nature’s way of mercifully putting you down, going to a hospital, being nonsensically kept alive through some kind of Frankenstein wizardry because they’re legally obligated to save you, going to a “rehabilitation facility,” where you never fully recover because you’re already at life’s natural end, and being too big for your family members to lift and care for at home.
Now you’re essentially dead but still suffering, and you’ll just drain your savings to be tortured. The family compound cannot and will not save you from this fate. Only the DNR and advance directive can. Accept death. It comes for all of us.
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I know I'm late to the party but I've just reached season 4 of The Witcher and I simply can't believe they spent hundreds of millions of dollars on a mistake this big. The writing is awful; I see why Cavill left, and it's clear that he was holding the show together.
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I am a chaplain and I work with the elderly. The answer is that when someone goes into assisted living, they have to spend down all their assets. Then, once they are destitute, Medicaid kicks in and pays. They are left with a small allowance each month - as low as $85.
I genuinely don’t understand how ordinary people are supposed to afford assisted living for their aging parents. Some facilities charge upwards of $10,000 A MONTH. That’s $120,000 a year just to make sure your parents are properly cared for. How is the average family supposed to afford that?
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Finally watching The Witcher; we're halfway through season 3 and if Geralt and Yennefer don't make up and bone again before Hemsworth gets here I'm going to need to join a grief support group; I can't this anymore 😭
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The best therapist I ever had, when I would tell her my anxieties and would ask "Does that sound crazy to you?" would respond "Yes." Once, she said "Jesus Christ, Snail, are you listening to yourself?" and it literally cured me. Barbara was wonderful.
I’m reading this tiktok comment section about what people have done in OCD therapy and I may have found my new occupation
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I have known many people, including family members, who begin all their explanations with "see what had happened was," without ever developing an awareness that the common factor in all of these convoluted and improbable happenstances was them
There’s a whole class of people who continuously find themselves in situations like this, situations completely unknown to normal well adjusted people, and at no point do they consider they had a hand in creating the situation. I’ve referred to it before as the cloud of chaos. They’re constantly being cheated on, arrested, yelled at, fired, have health issues, being evicted, just an endless stream of interpersonal drama. They insist it’s never their fault.
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This is one of the best takes on this situation that I've seen so far
This article really pisses me off because, if you read it, you can tell right off the bat that the only reason the cops were ever called on this woman in the first place is some male community security guard told her that she broke an HOA rule and she had the audacity to be a knowledgeable woman who told him he was mistaken as to the scope of his authority, and then escalated by conceding it was not an HOA bylaw and called the cops on her.
I think that's what missing from the posts that I see discussing this. Sure, the criminalization of childhood independence is bleak, but what is replete throughout every article I have read about Ms. Parkinson is that she is obviously a well-educated woman who not only specializes in the law, but also childhood development, and she is continually penalized by male authority for not ceding to their unearned and mistaken sense that they know better than her.
I really hope she succeeds in her appeal and sues the state for malicious prosecution, or whatever similar cause she can.
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This sounds exactly like something a patient will casually say to me, their chaplain, at the end of a visit where they swore nothing was troubling their heart and thanked me for stopping by anyway, when I have one foot out the door and have just hit the hand gel
I left my wife. It was a low point in my life. There was jail time involved. I briefly converted to Islam. I lost a long legal battle with Joann fabrics.
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The first time I heard "Someday We'll Linger in the Sun" by Gaelynn Lea, I had tears slowly rolling down my face for most of it. When she hits that high note in "And I love you," perfection. youtu.be/n6oSeODGmoQ?is=FREu…
Has there ever been a recording from one of these tiny desk things that’s not utter cringeworthy dogshit?
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Gotta be honest, I'm not sure I trust the online compounding pharmacy that sent me these instructions with the medication
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As with many things, it depends on context. Neurodivergent people get into trouble when they try to find a universal rule, or try to apply a blanket strategy across all scenarios. A response that's appropriate in one situation can be wildly inappropriate in another. 1/4
I will never understand why "sharing similar experiences from your own life" is supposed to be bad?? 😭 it shows me that the person listening to me knows what im talking about cause they went through something similar. Like am I crazy for feeling this way??
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As a pastor, if I could write a sermon that went as hard as "don't delude yourself... thinking you could gain by accident what you couldn't by effort" I would be the most in-demand public speaker in the denomination
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