Umenta Braith (MD)

According to Adekunle, he first discovered Simi through a video she posted and sent her a DM . But she didn't even notice him or reply. Their first physical encounter was when Simi was performing at Bogobiri. She friend-zoned him for years before finally agreeing to date him in 2012. They eventually married in 2019. All through that time — and even after — she was heavily expressing her desire for men like J. Cole, Idris Elba, and Eminem. Adekunle waited patiently while she openly obsessed over men who didn't know she existed. She sent DMs hoping to be noticed, professed her desire to s|eep with them (consensually or forcefu||y), and even talked about getting pregnant by them. Adekunle has tried imitating J. Cole so she could at least admire him a little, but you can never be enough for a woman who doesn't rate you. As Des Tiny said: even if you're the prettiest shade of red, you'll never be good enough for a woman who's favourite colour is blue. He's neither J. Cole, Idris Elba, nor Eminem — so he'll never genuinely earn her admiration or reverence. Na!ve men dismiss it as "just a celebrity crush," but it goes far beyond that. If you marry a woman who's obsessed with another man, you'll always be competing with that man's shadow, and you'll most likely never win. Most times she speaks about Adekunle, she uses the tone of a coach talking about a subordinate. But when it's about J. Cole, her tone is full of admiration and reverence. Yes, she's been very supportive of his career, but that doesn't change the fact that she feels she settled for him and is doing him a favour. He should have made her his manager instead of his wife. She friend-zoned him for years while scouting for attention from men who didn't care about her. Even when she finally agreed to date, she didn't fully admit they were together for a long time. Even after marriage, she constantly reminded him that J. Cole was her ideal man and she wouldn't hesitate to dump him if J. Cole ever showed interest. This is your reminder that if you're not a woman's first choice, you can never truly be no matter what you do. She'll always yearn for the ideal man she never had. Never let a woman act like she's doing you a favour by being with you, or that she could have been with someone "better." Tell her to go be with him. You are supposed to be your woman's only celebrity crush — the one she's star-struck by, the one she obsesses over and wishes to be with every day, her leader, her idol. If she's openly crushing on or desiring another man, you're living in his shadow. Culled from: Thinkers, not believers, facebook