#sigma Astrology for men. A dumb person's idea of a smart man. All maps are wrong, some are useful. I take myself very seriously.
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IntrovertSigma retweeted
1/2 Logically that’s true. But if a woman compliments you on a skill or achievement it’s better to say something like: “Thanks, it just comes easy to me / I’m naturally awesome / I guess I was lucky to be born good at this” than “I spent 10 years working on it”
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The way to escape being an average hopeless loser man was once well known by all: learn to play electric guitar. Everyone who wasn’t up to that challenge, who neither wanted to at least get jacked or rich or ride a motorcycle, and had no other niche quality or interest that afforded him his desired social life (D&D nerds and Ren Fest guys are not hurting for pussy, they are often in long-term relationships with the fat chicks they actually fantasize about) accepted his fate as a shlub who is to be merely tolerated by a woman whose low libido is compatible with his undesirability. Now, in a post-Elliot Rodger world, these men complain about it, blame women for only getting horny from things that make everyone horny (electric guitars), and think they’re owed something.
Cue the men complaining in the comments about how it’s not fair to make every man learn electric guitar— you see how every young zoomer guy who gets b!tches has that wannabe Hall and Oates mustache now? Yeah, replace that mustache with an electric guitar. It was like that once. That mustache does not touch your heart and soul. It does not gather a crowd and transform everyone who comes in contact with it. It’s a solipsistic, commercialized, plastic mustache. Men used to harness the power of Thor and send lightning bolts from their fingers to puppeteer everybody in the vicinity with jolts of electric magick. These new niggas got no heart.
IntrovertSigma retweeted
An ALPHA runs a HAREM of POKEMON girls.
Concluding that excelling at ANY endeavour and leveraging it with simple Game principles will yield unlimited pussy.
Further PROVING you DO NOT have to be a 6'7", hedge fund manager, with a 10inch dick to run a harem of women.
A sexy hobby.
No.
ANY hobby will suffice.
Recalling from the hallowed halls of the Chateau..
XII. Maximize your strengths, minimize your weaknesses
In the betterment of ourselves as men we attract women into our orbit.
To accomplish this gravitational pull as painlessly and efficiently as possible, you must identify your natural talents and shortcomings and parcel your efforts accordingly.
If you are a gifted jokester, don’t waste time and energy trying to raise your status in philosophical debate.
If you write well but dance poorly, don’t kill yourself trying to expand your manly influence on the dancefloor.
Your goal should be to attract women effortlessly, so play to your strengths no matter what they are; there is a groupie for every male endeavor.
Except World of Warcraft.
-Chateau Heartiste
I think it's time people know about SmashStadts, and the harm he is causing to women in the Pokemon Unite community.
docs.google.com/document/d/1…
IntrovertSigma retweeted
Also, I don’t think this should be an excuse to be with women you don’t find attractive without makeup (‘that’s what they all look like bro’). Train yourself to look past makeup and get in touch with what you authentically find attractive, your genes talking to you.
IntrovertSigma retweeted
I think she’s cute but 1) she’s one of my types and 2) I always try to see past the make up so I’m never too surprised or feel fooled when I see girls without. Too many men are completely mesmerised by a woman in lipstick which provokes the extreme negative reaction.
IntrovertSigma retweeted
If you’re not a top 15% chad, you can still have more success than many chads in dating, but you need to play smart and find your angle.
Even in a tough chad-heavy dating market in Australia, I always had girlfriends 2-3 looks points above me. I recall one time I walked into a clothes store with my girl at the time, and the storegirl said “is that your girlfriend?!” “why, yes” I replied, and she said “geez, you’re a lucky boy aren’t you?”
It was quite rude of her tbh, but I was getting these kind of looks and reactions, I was the guy batting out of his league, because I found my angles
This is key, you can’t just join the queue and compete with 10,000 other mfers and expect to get anywhere. In my case:
1. I was a musician that played regular gigs at some popular inner city venues
2. I’m very very good at meeting women in random situations in public (which less than 1% of men are capable of)
3. I understood my target personality types, and who I had the best chances with
4. I had several other funnels I thought of, that most other men didn’t think of
You need to be looking at who you are, thinking outside of the box, finding niche’s and funnels that work for you, this is key to modern dating
IntrovertSigma retweeted
The lesson in here is simple: if you lose your childlike zest for life and willingness to jump, you will end up feeling anxious and empty
Men who follow their heart, regardless of the risks, don't end up in therapy
There is a three year old somewhere right now squatting in a cold puddle with mud up his forearms and snot running into his mouth, screaming at nothing. he will bite his sister in twenty minutes and cry for an hour after because she bit him back. he will lose his favourite toy in some wet grass and grieve it like a death. by nighttime he will have lived more honestly than most grown men manage in thirty years. and somewhere in a clean room with expensive candles and a view of some mountain, a grown adult who paid four thousand to sit on a cushion for a week is begging his own nervous system to produce what that kid got for free by falling face first into a thorn bush
IntrovertSigma retweeted
All I know is that I’ve seen a lot of body builders drunkenly make out with fatties and skinny art boys with hot girlfriends. I don’t know what happens behind closed doors, but that’s the pattern I’ve seen.
IntrovertSigma retweeted
"The key for the man is to adopt a posture of blase emotional distance alternated with loving tenderness. Too much of either and she’ll run off." –Roissy
I would have written this somewhat differently, with more nuance
Here’s my version:
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The key for the man is this:
• You need to be busy and focused chasing your dreams, don’t sacrifice your dreams and put her at the center of your world
• Make sure to have at least one sexy hobby that keeps you in circulation, constantly meeting new people
• When you’re with your girl, be loving and tender
• But if you’re overly needy, overly available and always attentive to her every whim, she will start to lose attraction because she will start to lose respect and admiration for you
• She WILL try to shit test you and pressure you into giving up your own dreams and activities in order for your life to revolve around her 100%
• Don’t fall for this shit test. You need to be able to establish boundaries and hold onto your beliefs
• Also, don’t get resentful when she does this. It’s not her fault. It’s just her feminine programming
IntrovertSigma retweeted
The coolest people are always the weirdest
Everybody who's ever been successful is a weirdo...going against the grain.
I've been weird my whole life, but until I embraced it I was not free.
Weird comes from the old english word wyrd, meaning "having the power to control destiny"
It also means "something supernatural; uncanny"
Own your weird
IntrovertSigma retweeted
If you want to become a great man & live a dynamic life, you need to take big risks
But you need will not simply to take the plunge but to survive the trial with your soul intact. You must keep the faith
If you lack it you will never reach the full potential God promised to you
Every man who did something that looked impossible to the people around him just had will and nothing else. i know this sounds stupid and reductive but ive watched it enough times to stop doubting it. talent matters so much less than people think. intelligence matters less. money matters less. what matters is whether a man can hold one single decision inside himself long enough for it to start changing the things around him
IntrovertSigma retweeted
Every man who did something that looked impossible to the people around him just had will and nothing else. i know this sounds stupid and reductive but ive watched it enough times to stop doubting it. talent matters so much less than people think. intelligence matters less. money matters less. what matters is whether a man can hold one single decision inside himself long enough for it to start changing the things around him
IntrovertSigma retweeted
You can do this for a couple hundred dollars and far better results if you just follow this social recipe:
1. Create an event to invite people to
Could be a picnic where you talk about the bible or a pickle ball meetup or play basketball
It doesn’t really matter just throw some event that you would enjoy going to
2. Invite people you meet out
Now you have a reason to take down numbers and invite people somewhere. It won’t feel so awkward anymore and you actually have a reason to build your network now.
From here you just throw the event and continue to invite more people and it will continue to grow and expand.
3. Throw it on a weekly or twice a month basis
This way it’s something casual people don’t have to worry about missing and can drop in with a little pressure and leave just as easily
You want to design the event to essentially be something that people can check out and stay if they like but I have no pressure to stay if they wanna leave
That way people will come and they will naturally bring their friends including girlfriends will bring their girlfriends and then you just throw it to 100 or so people all while you are being in the leadership position so you look absolutely amazing
And the best part is because it’s doing something you like you’re having a blast anyways
I guarantee you that you would find far better girls with this method than hinge and going on dates
Ask me how I know this works?
Because I have many friends that have done it and I’m about to do it myself.
And here’s the best part you can also use it to just build a community which is my intention
Really what I’m sharing with you above is a community building skill. You choose what you wanna do with that skill. But once you start and lead a community it is hard not to have dating options with the community but more importantly also connections.
Connections are some of your most powerful assets especially when you’re young
Those will grow into your most valuable relationships
This entire process will change your life if you do it
And you’ll never have to download another date again.
God dating apps are sad. Still never used one and never will. Don’t need it. My social skills don’t need to rely on some dating platform that no one actually wants to be on Buttars more afraid of being alone than being with somebody they don’t like.
I have higher standards than that for myself.
I spent $8,700 on first dates after moving to NY a year and a half ago. Here is what I learned.
50 first dates, 10 second dates, 1 girlfriend (we've been together for 4 months now). All from Hinge. An average of $174 per date.
Looking back I could have done a better job at filtering. Goal was always a long term relationship. Best filter was a call before the date (highly recommend that actually). Can save both of you a lot of time. And sets the expectations right.
All women were between 25-32. I'm 30 years old. You can definitely find the love of your life on the apps. I spent most of my time in the office so its very hard for me to meet women irl. I'm also not really a bars/club guy.
I was looking for a very specific person. Similar cultural/religious background. Just get Hinge pro or whatever its called. Makes it easier to filter and gives you a boost.
Kinda hard to say but true. If you are a man below 50% in looks/status or whatever you want to call it you are going to have a hard time. there are just more men than women on the apps (see the report). Set your expectations accordingly.
The height thing is true. I'm 6'1 so it was not a problem for me. But heard this complaint from every single guy under 6 feet.
Also dating is expensive. Especially in NY. Maybe just do drinks or something. I always did dinners and insisted on paying for them (maybe an egyptian thing).
Out of the 50 first dates, I probably liked 20. 10 liked me back. One girl I dated for 3 months but it turned out it was not a long term match. Great girl though!
I was very lucky I guess but I never had an awkward experience (definitely more risky for a girl). Actually had some really interesting conversations even if we both knew this would not be a romantic match.
kinda weird to say but online dating is a funnel. you have to meet people to figure out what you like and what you dont like.
took me around 50 tries to find my current girlfriend. you can see the full report in the tweet below.
IntrovertSigma retweeted
Do not allow ANYONE to cuck you into thinking charisma isn’t a learnable skill and quality.
Think about it logically - is it possible to become LESS charismatic? YES. Obviously. By admitting this, we concede that it is also possible to become MORE charismatic.
Train the behaviour until it becomes automatic habit.
Simple.
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This is difficult for a lot of guys to understand, but attraction is not actually about ‘you’.
The initial attraction a woman has to you comes from the image you portray.
Then, she’s attracted to the feelings you elicit in her.
Then she sleeps with you and is attracted to whichever of her fantasies she can fit you into.
Once she’s in a relationship with you, she’s attracted to your various displays of power, prowess, strength, dominance — both physical and social; mental and emotional — that you show her in day-to-day life.
You have a deep inner heart, your core soul, that is known to you and God.
That inner, core soul is beautiful.
No one will ever truly know it in this life but you.
A woman can only ever know you through what you show her.
Learn to showcase your inner self in attractive ways, and you BECOME attractive, without even needing to think about it very much at all.
Many men do not learn this, and appear unattractive, even if their ‘inner selves’ — hidden from her, and from all the world — might indeed be beautiful.
One way or another, in this flesh and blood world, we are stuck communicating with each other at the level of thoughts expressed through words and behavior.
‘Game’ is developing the ability to express yourself in ways that are attractive, and not unattractive.
It’s a skill every man who doesn’t want to be frustrated, lonely, or regretful must learn.
IntrovertSigma retweeted
Sex appeal comes from knowing who you are on a deep & intimate level
Nothing sexier than confidence.
Than not only knowing but LOVING who you are.
Than owning the essence of who you are.
You only get that from going thru an extensive journey of self discovery to figure out who you are & who you wanna be
Once you do, others opinions go out the window. Why would they get a say in who you want to be? You create yourself.
IntrovertSigma retweeted
IDGAF about looksmaxxing. You can be the hottest guy in the room. If you have no aura it simply does not matter. Think about all the hot girls you’ve met with 0 personality. Same thing is applicable for guys. BUT RACHEL. Hot guys/tall guys have such an advantage. They don’t even have to try and girls flock to them!
This is true but the advantage is short term. The advantage is applicable if you’re looking for a quick hook up. Or something shallow. Maybe you are. Stop reading here. I have no advice for you.
I think part of the problem in the first place is girls flocking to men. Right there the dynamic is already f*cked. Of course, for the ego, it feels good to have girls coming to you. But that’s not the way we were designed. Men hunt. Men pursue. Men chase. Anyone online or in real life telling you otherwise does not understand basic biology. Or perhaps is not a man of God. Maybe both.
If you’re confused about male/female dynamics, turn on the animal channel. The males hunt for food. They look for their mate. Girls wonder why they can’t keep guys? Because you threw yourself at them from the start. You didn’t let them do their favorite thing. Which is to chase. We forgot how to dance or we never learned how to. (I talk about this in my recent substack but I digress.)
THE KEY. Is aura. This is why I am so passionate on style > fashion.
So. How to increase your aura? It starts with confidence. Confidence starts with knowing who you are. Confidence starts with knowing what you stand for and what you value. It starts with looking in the mirror and liking the person looking back at you.
In terms of physical appearance, you do not need to look like everyone else, but you need to look like the best version of yourself. Maybe this is looksmaxxing, I don’t know, but this is rarely just external. The external reflects the internal. It starts with what’s going on inside. So if you look and feel like shit, that stops here.
Move your body. Eat real food. Sleep. Do things that increase testosterone. Lift heavy. Stop smoking weed. Stop binge drinking. Make sure you’re sleeping. Manage stress. If you do these five things alone you set yourself up for success.
Learn how to take your life seriously without taking yourself too seriously. Crack jokes. Own who you are and the life you are choosing for yourself. Have a mission that is greater than who you are. Care about the people around you. Be the one who shows up. Get laser focused on your vision, whatever that is.
Ask questions.
Stay curious.
Stop trying so hard.
You don’t need to “looksmaxx”. You need to beyourselfmaxx. That’s aura baby.
IntrovertSigma retweeted
And to add more detail onto the end of this, you simply take this knowledge of how attraction principles work THROUGH actions/words/behaviors and think, "How can I communicate the masculine and/or human characteristics that are attractive to women to date/smash and other men to befriend them?"
You put them into a unique form that is "you." There's infinite creativity here. But it still has to "work." You can't just pretend everything you do is awesome cuz that's not true and you have to be honest with yourself...really honest with yourself. And you have to "test it."
and in before the dummies say "omg you're teaching people to be fake, just be urself bruh!"
You're not being fake, because
1. You really do want to be attractive and there's nothing wrong with that (so it's HONEST)
and
2. Things that are attractive are OBJECTIVELY ATTRACTIVE even if they're subjectively "colored" by your unique personality. There IS TRUE BEAUTY in the world. This objective reality counters any "this is fake" accusations from low iq dingdongs.
And if you don't have the traits you want to SIGNAL to the world to be attractive?
THEN GO AND MAKE THEM REAL YOU DINGDONG.
GO BECOME MORE FUN, MORE SMART, MORE INTERESTING, ETC.
LIFE IS AN INFINITE GAME OF FREEDOM AND YOU'RE NOT JUST LIMITED TO ONE LIFE. Only the dumbest of us are confined by materialistic "you only have one life" worldviews. There is no framework of the universe lower than this. Even the most braindead evangelical 73IQ bible thumping Christian is smarter than the most 200 IQ atheist in the simple fact that he acknowledges there's more than just physical reality and that there is life/before after death. What you do matters and will echo into your future lives and your current life is also an echo of your previous lives.
So get to work, my friends. If you were deserving of what you wanted, you would already have it.
MAKE your reality.
May you become the most beautiful version of yourself and may you find happiness and peace everlasting. I will spend an eternity on this quest to bring you all peace, happiness, and also truth (which is why I'm a bit rough sometimes :D) as best as I can, while also have a fun time myself.
See you at the finish line.
Women do respond to primal behaviors from men. Simple thinks like talking louder, talking clearer, and big movements like hugging friends, touching people, etc.
But it's not so simple as that. While these behaviors do trigger "strong man who will bend me over" reactions that DO TURN WOMEN ON...there's some nuance to all of this.
Firstly, being too boisterous and loud and big CAN be taken too far and go from "big confident guy" to "guy who is trying too hard," which is the opposite of confident.
Men expose their insecurities like this when they go from being fun and confident to rude and demeaning to others (including her). This "pops" the illusion and they go "okay, i was having fun a moment ago but now he's actually just being annoying" then this new perspective starts to color your behaviors differently. You've probably had this happen to you in platonic contexts...you meet a guy who's cool and funny at first, but then his "act" becomes annoying. He's a one-trick pony and you realize he has no other substance to his personality other than what he's currently doing (making offensive jokes, being sexual, etc.).
This is what some people are intuitively aware of when they criticize some men's dating advice as being "fake." They sense that any advice peddling "do X to attract women" is suspicious because it's not that simple and one-dimensional behaviors are...well...one-dimensional.
They're 50% correct. They're correct in the fact that you need to be well-rounded (NOT one-dimensional), but they're incorrect that you should never ever change who you are, because by definition to become the best version of yourself you need to change....yourself (which is often what they argue against, because they're stubborn and lazy and dumb).
So, how do we resolve this problem? How do we behave in attractive ways but without being dumb cavemen? Or is attraction TRULY so primal and primitive?
It's not, luckily. If it was, we'd live in a very different world.
Some men THINK we live in that world (the black and red pillers).
They see a world where big, high status, good looking powerful men rule everything.
But they are
1. really not smart
2. losers who really haven't seen much of the world
The 1000IQ perspective is to recognize that primal attractors (looks, size, status, etc.) ARE effective, but are NOT the endgame and that non-verbal charisma, conversational skill, and higher values like wisdom and generosity and conviction can trump any primal advantage if done properly.
However, the men out there who are representing the power of these traits are pretty rare.
Why?
Because most people aren't trying or smart enough to figure out these harder to master skills.
And those people who are good at them aren't world famous. They're random dudes...bartenders, car salesman, bouncers, artists, academics, etc.
Meeting these people requires you to go outside and experience life, especially with groups you're not usually comfortable hanging out with. This is what I mean by #2, the losers who have not seen much of the world, making incorrect judgments about the state of dating and how attraction works. Their evaluations are limited.
But most people, even those who explore, are just not very smart. They don't see the nuances. And funnily enough, and this is really something...the people who ARE the exceptions, the charismatic artist or academic...they still fall prey to the primal thinking of "bigger faster stronger" always winning. I've seen one of the best artistic suave guys I know still be nervous and meek around my super gigachad alpha friend...when in fact, that artist guy gets 5x more girls than the gigachad friend. Objectively in every criteria he's 5x more successful. Maybe MORE. He doesn't "realize his own power" sort of situation. He's also emotionally unstable. And yet despite being a victim of his own flaws, when he's at his best, he's the light of the room, a man with no status or money or prestige and he was able to climb the social ladder of his country through pure charisma and good energy...and then seduce one of the most famous girls in the country, despite being a no name (even while being in those circles, he had no external status, only the good word of others in the group). And it's only once he's had the opportunity to rub shoulders with the "elite" of his country (who are no different than the elite of any country) that he's beginning to see the absolute mindboggling stupidity of this primal hierarchy of "whoever is the most rich and powerful wins the best girls," because that's NOT how it works....because being the most rich or powerful or good looking or prestigious (WHATEVER "value" you want to put in here, put it in here) doesn't actually make you BETTER. It has SOME power, but it's not ABSOLUTE. And you can PROVE this by going INTO these circles and just have good social skills, NOT be intimidated by these primal virtues, and then still "win." But it's only after experiencing time in the world is he able to see past the illusion. His mind is able to see the patterns. He's not even totally super aware of it when we talk about these dynamics but he's slowly seeing it all.
So when I say most people are "not very smart,' this is what I mean. Even the people who are at the top don't even know how it works. They can't draw lines of nuance to see "power and status and looks are good to this extent and in this context, but here is where charisma and conversational skills and wisdom can triumph over any of those and in far more situations."
So, now circling back to my original point, WHY are primal attractors like being loud and boisterous effective and why are they not?
They're effective because they SIGNAL something attractive. But if taken too far, they signal the OPPOSITE of what they were signaling before. I'll put it super simply.
Loud guy -> signaling "i'm not afraid and I express myself"
This is a masculine characteristic and thus inherently attractive to women.
Loud guy who does it too much and has no depth to him -> signaling "i'm TRYING To appear not afraid but I am actually because I won't STFU and relax."
This is an UNmasculine characteristic and thus inherently unattractive to women.
To see this more clearly, we go deeper.
WHY is loud = not afraid?
Because being loud is the opposite of being quiet, and quiet, A LOT OF TIMES, signals "afraid."
And many times, this is TRUE. The quiet guy isn't some mysterious deep entity of cosmic wisdom...he's just a shy awkward loser. So the "stereotype" that quietness signals is pretty spot on a lot of times.
But social interaction is deeper than this. You can look at someone who is quiet and see if they're comfortable or not. They SIGNAL or COMMUNICATE the truth non-verbally and a keen, discerning eye can tell the difference.
Quiet + comfortable = quiet for NOT fearful reason
quiet + uncomfortable = quiet for FEARFUL reason
And this can even be taken deeper. Even if someone seems upset and quiet, it could be because they're dealing with something...not because they're socially awkward or nervous about the CURRENT situation.
But most people's analytical eye or intuition can't see this all instantly...it takes a while.
That's why the loud boisterous guy isn't immediately seen as secretly unconfident unless the person watching is very keen. It takes time for the pattern to emerge and the truth to be revealed.
So what's the ACTUAL thing that's attracting the woman???
It's
1. NON-nervousness towards HER and/or OTHERS.
2. Conviction in one's beliefs (you talk with confidence about what you say/believe)
3. Fun energy (love of life/positivity)
The non-nervousness CAN be signaled through being loud. If loud = not nervous. But as we found out, it's more nuanced than that. loud can actually signal the opposite,but it's USUALLY a safe bet that loud = not nervous. see how this isn't necessarily a "positive" signal like confidence is, but a NON-negative? do you see the distinction? non nervousness isn't necessarily penetrative and masculine, but it CAN signal it...it's like a "? maybe he has big dick energy?" signal. and if probe deeper and revealed to be strong masculine stoic energy, THEN it creates lust. a strong stillness IS masculine energy and lust inducing. But if it's revealed to be nervousness/fear, it can cause a lack of attraction.
Whereas being loud can ALSO signal conviction in one's beliefs. when you talk, you don't just blow hot air. you say what you believe. this is also a male trait that is attractive. this is a PLUS charged thing. it's a "forward" energy rather than a "not negative" energy. Having conviction is masculine and therefore lust inducing in women. it creates sexual attraction to them because men are external/penetrative and women are internal/receptive. but if it's revealed your loudness isn't confidence but the COVERING of insecurity, then it will have a DOUBLE negative effect, because it's dishonest AND non-masculine.
And fun energy is ALSO expressed in being loud and smiling and hugging people. fun energy is a universal human attractor. it's neither masculine nor feminine, but it's still attractive overall. it's a "positive" energy.
So is attracting some primal animalistic? Obviously NOT. But the surface behaviors we watch CAN be very primal/animalistic.
But the qualities actually doing the attracting deep down...are anything but.
Use your brain, look deeper, and you'll understand what' s really going on, not what your monkey brain THINKS is going on.
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massive life unlock comes down to figuring out your personality type and what drives that type to push forward. connecting the dots between the work you are already doing - what you should be doing is a game changer. once you figure it out everything will start to feel effortless