Jules

Malignant narcissists often attack people for the very things that deserve pride. That's a deliberate pattern, and it has a mechanism behind it. A person with this pathology has no stable internal sense of worth. Their self-image depends on being superior to others and on getting supply from them. When they run into someone with real strengths (competence, integrity, kindness, confidence), it exposes what they lack. They can't admit envy, so it turns into contempt. The strength gets relabeled as a flaw: confidence becomes arrogance, empathy becomes weakness, boundaries become abuse, achievement becomes showing off. The attack has three functions. It makes the contrast disappear by getting you to hide or disown the quality. It cuts your self-worth loose from your actual traits and ties it to their approval, which makes you easier to control. And it moves their own shame onto you. What they can't carry (inadequacy, emptiness) gets handed to you. The malignant subtype adds sadism: they enjoy the shame reaction itself. That's why the attacks often intensify when you visibly care about the thing they're targeting. It does the most damage in childhood. A child shamed for their strengths often becomes an adult who flinches at praise.

Have you ever tried mirroring a narcissist’s behaviors back at them to try to show them how inappropriate their behavior is only for them to completely miss the point of self-reflection and accuse you of being abusive for doing the exact same thing they did to you first?

Those predators who look for vulnerable people to mimic and feed on for narcissistic supply while they smear campaign them to try to destroy the original, I think these are real vampires. These people must be what the idea of vampires was created after. They’re afraid of the light. They can’t see their own image. They feed off of people because they literally need other people‘s persona.

If you've survived narcissistic abuse, you've survived one of the biggest forms of trauma known to mankind. Be kind to yourself. 🙏🏼

The feeling of KNOWING so clearly that someone is a manipulative, deceitful, abusive narcissist and seeing them fool crowds of people is one of the most frustrating and isolating things a person can experience

EMOTIONS YOU MUST NOT SHOW TO A NARCISSIST - Fear: they feed on it. - Desperation: it makes you their puppet. - Hurt: it validates their power. - Jealousy: it's their favorite game. - Helplessness: it invites domination. - Over-Explaining: it signals weakness. - Rage: they'll flip it and blame you. - Attachment: they weaponize it. The safest emotions to show a narcissist? Calm. Neutrality. Unbothered energy.

Narcissists often use withholding tactics to assert control. By withholding important things, necessities or information, they create a power dynamic where they appear as the one in control. When you ask for what you need, they might portray you as the demanding one, flipping the situation to maintain their dominance and avoid responsibility.