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The reason you find another woman attractive enough to the point you wish you met her before your wife has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not the other woman is attractive or well-mannered in the first place, but everything to do with the fact that you’re a man without honour! You and the men in your family most probably travelled by road for at least 2 hours more than once to meet with your wife's family, as it is in Nigerian customs. Besides putting the most respected men in your immediate and extended family through that stress, on the day of the actual wedding, you stood in front of the most important people in your life and without any pressure gave your word and made the same commitment you made to your wife, this time publicly. Cheating on your wife is not just about having sex with someone else. It means your words mean nothing. You are a dishonourable person. People think it is only when the act occurs that it brings their character to question. Entertaining any thought like "I wish I met you before my wife", let alone saying it exposes a deep flaw in your values and personality. So you mean to say that having known your wife from when you first met to the moment you decided to marry her and despite all the memories you’ve shared, a woman you’ve barely known for 2 weeks makes you wish you chose differently? I get it that for many people, they decide to get married because they’ll soon be 40 without a wife and there’s no serious thought to who they choose and how they choose a wife. It’s not that you don’t find other women attractive, but that you’re bound by your own words, not the fear of going to hell for adultery, not to earn the blessings of any god, but about integrity and honour because it was you who proposed the marriage. You made the choice!