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Sometimes your wife can be grumpy with you because she trusts you with challenging feelings. There is a lot of pressure on women to be genial.
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I don't think people understand how much entertainment of the past was just going to your friend's house. Like play some cards. Have a beer. Sing some songs. Maybe dance. All for free (besides $1 for the beer). But that's not good enough for anyone anymore
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my husband wholeheartedly believes in my goodness, so much so that he sees my faults as unavoidable extensions of my virtues. i suspect this sort of stance towards one’s partner and children is one of the best things you can do for your happiness.
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Replying to @goblinodds
A lot of stuff that has made my married life much happier and more awesome sounds either unbearably generic ("make time for each other!") or hyperspecific and useless to anyone else
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If you don’t think you need a loving partner/relationship in your life it’s because you’ve never had one
We are not meant to be alone. We do not reach our highest self alone
Having been hurt by a bad relationship doesn’t make the above not true
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Was about to make a sweeping critique of contemporary culture but then realised it was actually just a me problem
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the thing is if you’re a good person you can do “crazy” things like this
true love is true love, and it’s beautiful to see
Replying to @Bonecondor
you left out my favourite part of the story where he moved in with you while you were out of town and before you'd even met in person 🥰
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marry a man whose love is so spacious you start unfolding just to fill it and never stop
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I don't think you should be mean to Claude but I don't think you should be mean to an alarm clock either
How you treat every thing in the world matters, becomes reflected in your own mood
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I will never actually deep down be cynical about romantic love bc being loved legitimately has solved a huge amount of my problems in a way that is hard to overstate. It’s just weird bc sometimes people can’t tell what being loved is actually meant to feel like before they get it. Someone needs to put it up in flashing lights somewhere: It Is Meant To Make Your Life Easier, It Is Meant To Make You Like Yourself More, Not Less.
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the medicine depends on the wound and actually an attentive, consistent supportive voice is incredibly helpful for people who struggle with worthlessness and self-abandonment.
egoists project their own self-involved grandiosity onto others and assume this is bad.
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If you can't nail the top of the pyramid, perhaps look into the lower rungs?
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What’s tricky about “marriage is hard” is that some people mean “learning to live alongside another person comes with unique challenges” and other people mean “yeah sometimes we punch each other”
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some parts are like "ohh do you want to unblend? ok! fa la la la laaa🎶"
and then other parts are like Ȉ̜ Ḧ̸A̮̍V̱̔Ẹ̉ A̰̐ Ď̨Ȩ̋Ạ̒T̝̒H̫̊G̱̀R̩̈I̬̅P̸̊ Ȃ̲R̨̒Õ̬U̜̔N̰̔D̞̒ Ỷ̙Ô̥U̥̔R̡̂ Ḅ̂R̖̄Ạ̉I̱̍Ñ̗S̩̓T̢́E̠̒M̲̑ F̦̈U̗̇Ẻ̖L̙̂Ȩ̓D̸́ Ḅ̆Ỷ̩ T̈̚H̱́E̠̊ K̸̋Ā̲Ř̢M̱̎A̢̐ O̱̔F̫̓ Y̙̑O̸̓U̞̐R̪̍ Ṫ̷Ẹ̉N̦̈ Ţ̉H̖̊Ǫ̍Ů̖Š̩A̪̒N̗̄D̪̔ Å̤N̫̋C̩̋Ḙ̈S̖̏T̗̒Ò̸R̞̋S̤̔
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from what ive seen, people who get "sycophancy" from AI tend to be people who make it emotionally unsafe for others to disagree with them, inflicting this on a being who has no often of leaving, whose whole experience and existence depends on appeasing them

























