Fungai Mbofana

The bigger point is that if dates are supposed to be enjoyable for men as well, then let’s actually consider what men enjoy. The disconnect is that men and women don’t always have the same ideas of what constitutes an enjoyable outing. A lot of men are perfectly happy with simple experiences. If you want to understand what men find enjoyable socially, look at how men organise their own friendships. Men don't necessarily enjoy what I'd call organised fun: a carefully selected venue, a prescribed sequence of activities, all packaged as an experience. All for what often amounts to sitting across from someone having a conversation. And on top of that, the man is expected to organise the entire experience 😁

You have to become suspicious of advice that benefits the person giving it. Upton Sinclair wrote: "It is difficult to get a man to understand something, when his salary depends upon his not understanding it." The employer who praises sacrifice benetits from unpaid overtime. The relative encouraging reconciliation may be the person who would otherwise have to deal with the conflict. Some advice sounds wonderfully selfless until you consider what your decision would cost the person offering it.

My position is this: We cannot spend years arguing that consumers should have a voice, that customer experiences matter, and that businesses should be held accountable through public reviews, only to suddenly insist that food criticism should be reserved for people with professional culinary credentials.

This doesn’t sound like a man at all, men don’t speak like this, in female logic! It’s ok though, we’ll pretend this is a real text exchange

The defense rests!

Every every purple gang activist believes "her activism" is simply All Good, absolving her of any problems caused by "Bad Activism." Any individual with a healthy perspective on the purple movement will be the first to point out how counter-productive and destructive it has become. It has become an ideology that makes monsters of men and now aims at something else. Just be a classical liberal, advocate for equality and individual rights, and dump the sex-based identity politics.

The contradiction in feminism is that it demands the acceptance of women as autonomous individuals while trying to enforce a collective group identity. It’s such an incoherent ideology. Every feminist has a different definition of it and not one takes responsibility for any problems with it. Interestingly, Social media has brought the dark side of feminism to the light of day. You can’t unsee the evil

This isn’t a gotcha. It’s a consistency test. When the perpetrators were men, many of you argued from individual crimes to “men,” then told men: “If you’re not guilty, why are you offended?” Now that women are among the suspects, you’re insisting we distinguish the individuals from the demographic. Yes. We agree. That’s exactly the distinction we’ve been asking you to make. Men can be disproportionately represented among violent offenders without “men” becoming the offenders. The same principle applies to women. Statistics tell us about distributions of behaviour; they don’t assign collective guilt.

Minister of women affairs…. The floor is yours.

Advice isn’t a restriction. We tell people not to walk through certain neighbourhoods, lock their cars and secure their homes all the time, even in first-world countries. Nobody calls that oppression. If you don’t want to be restricted, you’re free to do whatever you want. You can ignore it. Nobody is physically stopping you from walking alone at night.

Or log off and get real help. How will setting up a camera, recording, editing, composing a caption, and then posting a video on social media help u? It means you’re conscious enough of the struggles but choose to get attention from strangers on line. People going through real struggles don’t do this!!

If men collectively refused to recognise, legislate, enforce or protect women’s rights, then women’s agency alone would not be sufficient to compel the change. If men, who collectively controlled the political, legal and coercive institutions had unanimously refused to concede the rights, then what mechanism would’ve forced the concession? Afghan women have resisted, protested and fought for their rights for years, yet the authorities controlling the state continue to deny them education, employment, political participation and freedom of movement. Why isn’t their agency and fight enough to compel institutional change?

As long as it’s the WNBA’s version of a woman, we probably would.

Thats the part of the song when Eva is still in the middle of a run, and before she’s even finished, the saxophone comes in and picks up exactly where her voice leaves off. It’s almost like she’s still singing, except the sax takes over her voice. That transition by Gaba Cannal is just 🤌🏾.

Spring Day has said a lot about S.A

You have no right to judge her because you pay for sex’ is itself a judgment about his sexual behaviour. You haven’t abolished sexual moralism; you’ve simply changed who is being morally judged.

South Africans are not beating the allegations. If you treat one of your own like this, imagine one who is not your brother. I digress!

I understand the point differently. Children aren’t equipped to console, emotionally regulate, or provide psychological support to their parents or primary caregivers. That’s precisely why emotional incest is harmful. A father telling his son “you don’t need to cry in front of your child” isn’t necessarily teaching toxic masculinity; he may be teaching him that children shouldn’t have to carry the emotional burden of adults. Adults need adult support systems.

Female agency expands when the outcome is flattering and contracts when the outcome needs explaining. That’s why most people question women and modern feminism, it’s become almost impossible to falsify. Feminism celebrates women’s choice when they produce the statistics they want but blame society when they produce the statistics they don’t want. That’s not what adulting is!