Grace 🙏

Because your laptop charger charges your phone doesn't mean you should use it

My friend Japa'd to the UK 3 years ago. We all celebrated him. He was always posting nice places, new iPhone, Tesco, train. He was always shouting "You guys should leave Nigeria, there's nothing here." Last month, he finally invited his wife and 2 kids to join him. We even did surprise party for them. Two weeks after they left, his wife messaged me privately. Disturbed. She said, "Please, ask your friend where we are." I said, "What do you mean? You are in the UK now na." She said, "We are in one room. Me, my husband, my two kids, and two other guys from his village. We sleep on the floor. He shares one toilet with 8 people. He works 18 hours as a cleaner and security. The house is full of mold. He never had any house. He was sleeping in his car for 4 months. All those fine pictures were on his day off, at random fine streets." She said, "He borrowed £4,000 to bring us here. We are worse than we were in Lagos. In Lagos we had a 2-bedroom flat. Here we are begging to breathe." My friend called me later that night angry, saying his wife is spoiling his image. That she should be patient. That everybody starts like that. I told him, "But you lied. You sold suffering as soft life." He said, "If I told the truth, who will respect me?" That's when I understood. Most people abroad are not living. They are just surviving and packaging.