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How to get the best out of people.
You initiate, them.
How.
You must EXPECT, ANTICIPATE, DESIRE, HOPE, DIRECT, anything good that you want to get from others.
Their best behavior must initiate in you.
In that regard, otherwise, screening, is passive. It's, first I want to see what they will do, to then me accommodate to reality.
Which is perfectly sane, still, weak, or, weaker, compared to masculine function.
Or, it's feminine function, below frame, let reality reveal itself, to then you know.
Nothing wrong with it. In principle.
However, people are ambivalent.
When you wait to see which cards they show, you are not dictating the rules of the game, so they will show you a variety of cards to see which game you want to play.
Which means eventually they show you, bad cards.
And then you, in your very wise screening pose, say, "aha!, I knew it, bad card!" and now proceed to treat this reality as negative.
You make it stable. Now you made it happen.
Or, screening, feminine side, is not passive.
It's a - trap. It's entrapment. Why - because they are trying to filter for one that would not just sneak in a bad card. Which is, wise.
Still, weaker,
Flip it to masculinity.
You're not just screening. You are creating.
You EXPECT ABSOLUTELTY NOTHING BUT THE GOOD CARDS. EVEN FROM PEOPLE WITH A MIXED MAZE OF CARDS.
You simply propose the game to them, first.
You treat them like they are honorable. You expect loyalty from them. You set the rule upfront.
Then, they will either follow you, or not.
They will accept the good game, or decide to break it, right there.
Which means you're being offensive in your screening.
Or.
I meet all types of people. I rarely if ever meet someone who's so corrupted they forgot they wanted to play clean.
I routinely offer thieves a free gift. Backstabbers a clean transaction. I look them in the eyes so it's clear, this is the game we're playing.
A lot of them fail. On first try.
I do not blame them. I just remove them from the game for the time being. They know what happened, and respect it. Because the withdrawal is clean.
Some of them see the opportunity to finally trust someone - find a space where they can "finally be themselves"
Because the thief is an adaptation. It's a form of playing. It's not, a being.
Very few people are actually totally lost to the other side.
So.
Again.
How to get the best out of people.
ACTIVELY DEMAND IT.
UPFRONT.
Then take nothing but the best of them.
Seeking, in the context of my original post, is hoping to get loyalty out of people who haven’t shown it yet.
Screening is the opposite; they show it, or they don’t get in.
That’s what I meant by the trap, so it's not "don’t require loyalty," but "don’t outsource it to people who haven’t earned a place."
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Avoidant. Anxious. Disorganized.
Whatever you are, you need to understand one thing.
You can't heal relational wounds purely through intellectual insight alone.
Healing requires corrective relational experiences.
Healing requires proof!
Contact with reality!
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S-Tier Game advice
Too many men on here are angry at women calling them expletives instead of understanding their incentives.
Women are not serious people. If you're a grounded guy that isn't an annoyance but a fact of life - like gravity.
Adapt and thrive.
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if you had to promise yourself only one thing that you will stick to this year make sure it is indefinite optimism. no matter what you are doing or how things are looking. you have to believe deep down that it will work out in your favor, and the results will surprise you
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All women have this latent programming btw. You literally just need to become the type of man that makes the world better with your existence and one of them will will hunt you down and demand your seed.
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Eh
He doesn’t really preach that u are the frame
I mean he does for simplicity, but he describes that you are not the frame, u are looking through the frame
U guys are saying the same thing, u just ‘being’ is his way of saying ur in TG,
Whe u step out of his being, ur in BG,
How ‘you’ perceive / live life in the dream, is always done through a frame, whether u want to look at it that way or not
How to live in the dream, he talks about it
And he understand this, all his step 1, step 2, etc post end with silence
Step 7 -
He gets it, u get it
U guys argue about nothing half the time, semantics
And words can’t explain it, nothing can, besides pure experience, so that is where the problem comes imo, two sets of experiences, trying to use words to explain them, but it fails, if the raw experience could communicate, I think u guys would be more aligned than u think
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there was a saying once
be attractive, don’t be unattractive
it snapped everyone hearing it out of their stupor for a period of time
they became attractive
they just imagined the attractive man responding attractively to the issue at hand
and. did exactly that. and it worked.
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until they didn’t and the issue arose again
then they had to do it again
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that’s the point.
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why does this sentence work?
what does
be attractive, don’t be unattractive
actually do?
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it pauses you. you accept the fact that you are as matter of fact unattractive rn. (judgment). you accept that. don’t fight it. just accept the status quo that you are unattractive rn as an observation of yourselves behavior and its outcome. you make a choice. fuck it we go attractive from now on. i know what’s it like. definitely not what i do right now. you give the choice direction. immediately. in your behavior.
by restarting.
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welcome to frame change
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Kinda
Yes u don’t engage it it, not by ignoring it or anything, but by not entering the frame of the test, that is how u ‘win’
(@YOHAMI just shared article on this yesterday, good timing)
And no it’s not a ‘you stupid bitch’ response either
Also means the shit test has hit
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Side note
I don’t even look at these things as test, jus banter between two people who are trying to poke and prod each other to see if they are someon they want to be w long term
Wasn’t even familiar w the term before I read it on this app
Wasn’t even familiar w the concept even
I thought these comments / moments w women were just fun playful things, how they flirted, how they showed the liked u, obviously the are fucking around, never answer these things serious, deflect, exaggerate, dig deep, respond w humor, agree
All these things, just normal part of being a human being
At least I thought
Then I got on this app and realize this was a thing people had a name for
And people weren’t good at it, it wasn’t natural to them
Makes sense
These things are important now that I see it, and if it does not com natural to u, only way to improve at it is by defining it and mapping what is happening