When you become successful, your existence becomes triggering to those who came from the same place you did but did not make it Everyone experiences this on some level. I’m talking about financial success but you might experience it whether you end up becoming jacked or building a healthy marriage & family or whatever You can (and should!) lie down as much as you want (homage @BowTiedBull), but success still leaves clues & people will notice you’ve changed Saw the below post and was struck because “placating the aggrieved” to my own detriment was a negative behavior I wasn’t quite conscious of until ~the last year So I asked Ori how I could learn to stop doing it, and he kindly responded with about 10 minutes worth of voice notes Pure gold I listened to them all multiple times then distilled the most important points here:

So, I had a conversation with @oritheoracle1 and his wife this week regarding the difficulty of watching your loved ones pass In jest, Ori commented: “Have you considered just knowing less people? You know a lot of people” Couldn’t help myself, I just started laughing. Belly laughing, in fact. The first great laugh I’ve had in a while. Because it’s true, lately it feels like someone I love is always sick and dying. Then I thought - is that not bittersweet? To have such an abundance of love that you have the gift of feeling anything at all? A great capacity for love is not something to wish away. Rather, we should pray for greater strength with which to carry it. The comment reminded me of this massive old beautifully illustrated book of Winnie the Pooh’s adventures I have and these famous words: “How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” __ And side note - you should all follow Ori. About half of the entirety of the best advice I’ve gotten this year has been completely off the cuff from him. Guy doesn’t recognize his own genius.