During my service year I stumbled upon one babe around my area. We clicked instantly and became kinda "friends". On my way back from PPA I'd usually visit with Ice cream and other things she never asked for because she lived just a stone throw from me. So we kinda met almost everyday and I never showed up empty-handed. On her part she always wanted to see me and ask for one advice or another as it didn't take me long to realise she was into business. As it wasn't costing me anything I just stuck around and tried to see life through her own eyes. So one day at work I recieved a distress message from her for urgent 2k. She's never asked me for anything so I felt she must've reached rocked bottom. I'd have sent her 10k if she wanted, she was a genuinely nice soul (I thought lol), 30+ at the time, and not so much going on for her at the time so being a 23yo without frontal lobe I felt very sorry for her. I decided however since I was going to her home I'd just slip her the money and some extra personally instead of doing transfer. I had the cash on my already. Fast forward to close of work I headed straight to her place. We greeted as usual and she explained how down bad she was, I comforted her saying I was her friend and will always give her a shoulder to lean on (ewu 😂). She then left to go take a shower because I just arrived unexpectedly. Well, she went out but left her phone near me unlocked. I couldn't resist snooping because messages kept trooping in endless. So I picked up the phone and immediately started laughing. Me that has never had a female friend decided to befriend my neighbour and the outcome didn't shock me. It turned out the same distress message she sent me was forwarded to another 100+ men on her contact. That is, it was only 2k. Assuming all 100+ men came through for her she'd be pocketing over 200k in a single day. My NYSC allowance was just 19k. I checked her account balance and she had over 100k since morning already, minus her previous balance. When I confronted her she started laughing, I was laughing harder. I was going to give my savings to somebody who was gonna milk me. I left laughing and our "friendship" (or neighbourship??) continued because I had nothing to lose. But that sole experience reinforced my lifelong belief that while there's almost zero roi for a man in a relationship, a man keeping a female friend is on a suicide mission. Top 2 most idiotic financial decision any man can make in life.