A search for a nameless thing.
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I believe that success, relative as it might be, is indicated more by culture than by any one notable event. What I mean is that success is not a lottery. It is systematic, structural and habitual.
Like me, most of my friends are children or descendants of people who made something significant of their lives. And while not many of them are particularly liquid, it may be false to say they don’t have at least some privilege in the conventional sense.
What I have observed, however, is that people from such backgrounds are more likely to organise themselves and their resources, prioritise relationships, avoid waste, and work with a sense of urgency that sometimes borders on restlessness. They can be labelled as “too serious”.
As if they want to maintain and sustain a streak of socioeconomic security and improve it.
By contrast, most of the people I have met who constantly talk about “hustling” and making money, and I say this sincerely, though I could be wrong, seem a little too relaxed about it all. They can spend hours watching TikTok videos, almost as though to distract themselves from reality. They know several Netflix series and can spend an entire afternoon and evening just talking. They might work, but it’s more intense and unstructured than consistent.
Interestingly, they are also more likely to be swayed by trends and the latest ideas about how to “make it”.
It is fascinating to observe.
And it reminds me of the statement by Naval Ravikant: “Work as hard as you can. Even though who you work with and what you work on are more important than how hard you work.”
Anyone who has watched people obsess over the apparent drive and ambition of successful individuals, only to get close enough to discover that those individuals are not particularly driven in practice, but merely seem to hang around like children who have grown bored with their toys, will understand what I mean.
I’d observe and think: how do you claim to want a better life and great fulfilment, yet remain lackadaisical about redefining or strengthening your position to increase your chances? Then, every so often, you become intensely interested in some new idea, try it out in the hope that it will be the one that changes everything, and eventually return to the same pattern.
Perhaps a key distinction both groups is that some people treat success as a way of life, while others treat it as an event they are waiting to experience. And it’s all good.
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There is something I've noticed about this place: how quickly we are to pull others down once a rumour has spread about them.
I'll start with Fechulo as an example. When the story broke, when that rabid, vile, good-for-nothing clout-chaser made a video, made a mountain out of a molehill, a molehill she created with her "beautiful lips" comment, and posted it here, so many of you were quick to pull him down. So many men were eager to laugh at him, to teach him game. The hilarity of that. A Nigerian man teaching another Nigerian man game. A Nigerian man. Lol.
When news broke that it was the lady who had initiated things with her comment about his lips, many of you didn't recant. You didn't come back to say, "Oh, I got this wrong. I apologize." You simply moved on, as though you hadn't joined a crowd of people in ridiculing someone over a story you hadn't bothered to understand; to verify. But even that isn't the point. The point is how eager you are to see someone fall so you can have a good laugh, so you can rush into the comments and say, "I always knew there was something off about this guy."
The same thing happened with Next Gen Constructions and the person who called him out. So many of you were quick to label him a scammer and pile on him. You knew nothing about the origin of their business dealings, you weren't privy to the contract they had signed, and you had no idea what might have happened behind the scenes, yet you were so comfortable passing judgement on a matter you knew so little about.
I have come to find this behaviour characteristic of people who have very little going on in their own lives. People who are so eager to pull others down, to land whenever hot gist breaks, to be among the first to deliver a verdict and join in the laughter. What does it say about you that another person's misfortune is something you can barely wait to participate in? I, for one, could never fully trust someone who is so quick to condemn another person without first hearing their side of the story. I wouldn't do it because I know how easily people paint themselves as blameless when they want to bring someone else down, and I know how easily an audience believes them.
You are an adult. This hunger for excitement, for gist that gives you an excuse to descend into the comment section and vomit bile you cannot substantiate, says something about how you spend your life. Much more than that, it shows how very little time you spend examining yourself. Because if you did, you would recognize how easily you, too, could find yourself in a situation where people who know nothing about what happened are laughing at you, passing judgement on you, and confidently repeating things about you that are completely untrue. You would understand how terrible it feels to have strangers turn your life into entertainment, to watch people who have never met you decide who you are from a few paragraphs, a video, or somebody else's version of events.
I would hope that, as a society and as a people who want to become better than we currently are, we would learn to do better. We cannot keep talking about the kind of society we want to build while taking such pleasure in tearing one another down at the slightest opportunity. At some point, we must learn to pause, to exercise a little restraint, to remember that there is a human being at the other end of the story, and that our eagerness to condemn someone does not make us any wiser, any better, or any more righteous than they are.
Lábándélé Òníòroró retweeted
For me, it’s been relationships and reputation. I think a lot of people underestimate how much economic value there is in simply becoming someone that people can confidently vouch for.
You don’t always have to be the person doing the work. Sometimes your value is being the person people trust to connect the right people, structure the right transaction, bring the right capital, solve a problem or simply make sure a deal is handled properly.
They have to trust that if they introduce you to someone, you won’t embarrass them. If they bring you a deal, you’ll handle it properly. If they give you information, you’ll treat it with discretion. If you commit to something, you’ll follow through.
One successful transaction creates another relationship. That relationship will then another introduction. The introduction creates another opportunity. Eventually, your network starts producing opportunities that you could never have generated through your own effort alone.
Lábándélé Òníòroró retweeted
what i’m getting here is that having 1 baby mama means she can lie about you being a deadbeat but having 4 means you have 3 witnesses
Lábándélé Òníòroró retweeted
One mistake folks make when they think about Love is that they tend to think we are great lovers when we give what is worth much but comes naturally to us.
However, the truth is that those who would truly love must learn that we give what is good, whether it comes naturally to us or we have to struggle daily to keep giving that good.
To love is to sacrifice, and you would not be sacrificing anything if you simply give what you would have given any other day.
This does not mean that what you give is not worth much. However, the mistake made when we are quantifying the worth of what we give that comes naturally is that we forget that even though it is worth much---a worth we must never allow anyone to underplay or ridicule--- it is convenient for us. And as I tend to say, it is VERY VERY hard to meet a situation in life where something great comes out of us simply doing what is convenient.
With respect to love, very scarcely do we meet a situation where a person has learned love so well, that all that is required to love a new person rightly is convenient for/comes naturally to the person. This is because each new person comes with their own idiosyncrasies that we'd have to learn---and sometimes endure---to keep loving them.
To love is to look at the object of your love and say: "I love you so much, that even this thing that I have grown to love and enjoy, I would abstain from it because you worth are more to me than it and I know having it would mean hurting or losing you or depriving you of a delight you could have gotten from its absence".
He cannot claim to love while gallivanting with different women. If he---and you---insist, however, on how much of a lover boy he is, then it truly begs the question of what you guys think love is. To put it directly; neither him nor you know what love is.
Your friend does not know anything about love. What he is giving---resources and time--- is convenient for him. I bet that he has a lot of both on his hands.
To love truly is not only to "cleave" to someone/something. Love also is shown in the decision to "leave" someone/something you'd have had, for the surpassing worth you reckon that the person you are cleaving to has.
**It must be noted that, in choosing a person, you have already bestowed upon them a surpassing worth to you within the relationship. The question of whether they are of surpassing worth to you over every other romantic alternative was settled the day you asked them out, said “Yes” to their advances, or accepted their proposal.
Hence, this worth is not something they must continually earn by performing well enough to deserve your love. They possess that worth in your relationship, and they retain it throughout the days you are with them. Their failures may require correction, confrontation, forgiveness, or even, in some circumstances, separation; but they do not mean that their worth must be renegotiated every day.
It must also be noted that separation from them does not make them worth less as a human being. They have intrinsic worth as humans outside of the context of you. What they lose in separation is the special privileges and unique responsibilities being your partner bestowed on them.
**There is a whole thesis to be written on how what comes natural to everyone differs. However, what is goodly has never changed, and love seeks the good, whether the mechanics of this good come naturally or it requires some cutting of hands and plucking of eyes.
I have digressed so bad. Hehe. All this to say: that guy does NOT love that girl. He doesn't even have an idea what love is.
---TheDaveAyo🏄♂️ | 2/10/2026 | 9:40am
PS: Everything said above applies to male and female.
Lábándélé Òníòroró retweeted
pra mim, sem dúvidas, o maior plot twist da vida é virar adulto e perceber que não existem adultos
Lábándélé Òníòroró retweeted
Tell’em. She’ll count herself lucky, and still admit that only your wife has your heart. You’ll later be invited for her wedding and you’d give her your blessing. We need to bring back real womanisers.
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There's not one woman in my life that would ever conceive of trying this.
I would extend it and say that I have NEVER had a five minute conversation with any woman that would ever think of this.
It would be a failure on my part if any woman---or man--- in my life thinks this is something they can attempt without very dire consequences.
Lábándélé Òníòroró retweeted
I send book give editor recently, e dey tell me say I dey too fond of inventing words when nor dey dictionary. I tell am leave am like that, nor be me una go accuse of using AI.
Lábándélé Òníòroró retweeted
I love art. Good art. Good writing. Good things created. And I don’t like denying myself good things simply because they come from a bad place. I’d be rattled if my enemy wrote a great book, but I’d still read it. If Hitler released a good album, I’d listen.
Lábándélé Òníòroró retweeted
A lot of well-meaning Nigerians refuse to agree to the CIA narrative, not because they do not see reasons with those who preach it, but because they believe Nigeria has the ability to override any CIA initiative. We simply have chosen to remain corrupt and incompetent.
Lábándélé Òníòroró retweeted
Hitler and Amin were both extraordinary people. Doesn't take away that they were shit humans.
Lábándélé Òníòroró retweeted
Our ginger farm should be worth $5–7 million within the next 2–3 years.
This is not a dream.
This is the blueprint we’re copying.
If everything goes according to plan…
The farm you’re watching is in India.
We’ve studied how they operate.
And we’re rebuilding that system here in Ogun State, Nigeria.
Not just parts of it.
Everything.
Their ridge planting method.
Their spraying routine.
Their weed control system.
Their post-harvest handling.
We’re adapting that entire production model to fit our own conditions.
My goal is simple.
Expand the ginger farm to 150-200 acre
Produce up to 10,800 bags of ginger in a single production year
Provide employment for over 500 workers
Add value to 20% of our total ginger production
I want to change the narrative of Kaduna ginger in the whole of southwest west
And it will be done in Ogun state.
This isn’t wishful thinking.
It’s a target.
And we’ll keep documenting every step until we get there.
Big farms are rarely built by luck. They’re built by systems people are willing to copy, improve, and repeat.
Lábándélé Òníòroró retweeted
There’s an entire epistle called the Kissinger Report, published in 1974 on the importance of keeping Nigeria poor.
52 years later, an idiot with a twitter handle, who has not read any of the publications,
who has not gone to the EU’s website to see why terrorist are being reintegrated into Nigerian Society
Who does not even understand the vast amount of resources in terms of hard minerals and human capital that Nigeria sits on
Comes online to make a post about Nigerians overestimating themselves.
You’re an adult. Do research before you speak.
You can’t keep walking around with the intellectual capacity of an earthworm
Lábándélé Òníòroró retweeted
I get what he is saying. His perspective makes for good intellectual/academic exercise.
However, the problem is that as a matter of principle, if our position on a deranged killer can be misconstrued as admiration, it is better for us to keep the articulation of the same to ourselves. Even if it is out of respect for the lives that mad man took, and the carnage he caused.
Intellect, while a virtue, must be subject to guiding principles---especially given the fact that data tells you that such adulation of killers tend to be part of what edges other psychopaths.
It is why even though Joe Goebbels is one of the greatest orators/propagandists that have walked our earth, his range is only discussed in VERY closed intellectual/academic settings.
The meta is simple; principles should guide intellect. That is what is missing in this context. In a very strict and controlled academic setting, Shekarau makes for a good specimen in studies about Leadership and Psycopathy.
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I find it suspicious how everyone immediately started painting the Yemenis as a country of drug addicts immediately they succeeded in taking back parts of their land from the US backed Saudi exploiters. The timing of this propaganda is duly noted.
