Steve Bwire

My dear friends and colleagues. 16 girls in Utimishi Academy were fatally set ablaze by their fellow students!! Bad adults are not an accident. They are a project. A project that started at age 5 when a child talked back to an adult and the parent laughed and said, "Huyu mtoto ni tough kama mimi" A project that continued at age 10 when the child threw a tantrum in public and nobody said a word. A project that matured at age 15 when the teenager disrespected a teacher and the parent showed up at school to defend the child. A project that graduated at age 25 when a fully grown adult cannot keep a job because they cannot take correction from anyone. Nobody wakes up at 30 and suddenly becomes rude, entitled, dishonest, and impossible to deal with. That software was installed early. By parents who were allergic to the word "no." "Mtoto wangu asiumizwe." "Usimshoutie." "Let the child express themselves." Express themselves into what, exactly? A menace? Because that is what happened. You let your child talk back to elders and called it confidence. You let them break rules and called it creativity. You let them disrespect boundaries and called it independence. Now they are 28. They cannot hold a relationship because they have never been told they are wrong. They cannot keep a job because they argue with every supervisor. They cannot take feedback without crying victim. And you are wondering what happened. You happened. You skipped the most important part of parenting. Discipline. Not beating. Discipline. Teaching a child that actions have consequences. That "no" is a complete sentence. That apologizing is not weakness. That respecting people is not optional. These are lessons that must be taught early. Because the world will not teach them gently. Schools do not raise children. The internet does not raise children. TikTok does not raise children. Church does not raise children. Parents do. And if you refuse to correct your child, society will do it for you. Society has no patience. No mercy. No second chances. Prisons are full of people who were never told "sit down" at age 7. Broken homes are full of adults who were never taught emotional regulation at age 12. Unemployment lines are full of people who were never told "do it again properly" at age 15. You had the chance to shape them. You chose comfort over correction. And now the world is dealing with the result. Raise children with manners. With respect. With accountability. With the understanding that the world owes them nothing and character determines everything. Otherwise, you are not raising a child. You are manufacturing a future problem. And society will send you the bill.