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many such cases! i have recently been enamored by this triangle from AEDP/ISDTP:

on some forms of procrastination

wow! i really like this post, whoa - exactly relatable to how i’m feeling with GTD in the past week (and the graphic is so good too)

c.f. GTD principles, the Writing Concerns Pyramid, etc > "So, what are you really trying to do here, anyway?"

i imagine you are familiar w/ edwin friedman's "a failure of nerve" and/or have already experienced this a lot yourself youtube.com/watch?v=nvU4vJg0…

it seems to be empirically better to use fictional ideal parents, as per IPF’s recommendation (but maybe need to first properly grieve what the real current family was not able to provide) nitter.gq/corbindreams/status/21…

ipf says do the latter (chapter 8 of daniel p brown's book, attachment disturbances in adults)

i also sometimes like to compare it to getting rid of a persistent blister > imagine you’re a tennis player who grips too strongly in an odd way such that you get a terrible blister every time you played tennis, and if you fix your harmful grip ***you’ll feel a lot better***, and it may make someee things a lot easier, but also obviously this would ***not be a miracle change*** to the vast majority of your technique or scores/rating or etc

holy moly attunement includes things like your parents understanding the prerequisite skill tree for potty training then this helps the child towards secure attachment by not engaging in ignorant power struggle / humiliation

oh wow, attunement as an important component of ideal attachment figures reminds me of "sufficiently comprehensive prerequisite skill tree is indistinguishable from radical empathy" nitter.gq/corbindreams/status/20…

dan brown was onto something, safety seems so important and misdiagnosing a need for safety seems to create a lot of retraumatization..?

here's another idea nitter.gq/chrislakin/status/2043…