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🚨 Álvaro Arbeloa and Fulham have been heavily criticised this season.
My opinion is the exact opposite of the common consensus.
I believe that he has the potential to be the next ELITE coach in the sport.
Below, in an in-depth tactical thread, I break down why…
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Bro, I don't fully agree with you here ooo cos texting a woman "are you a beach or lake person?" is some low level shit
It's not everyday we'll bash women, sometimes we also have to teach men how to move
There is a reason why we tell beginners to keep texting for logistics only
Don't try to build rapport through text if you're not experienced bcos you're more| likely to kill attraction than build it
With texting, you should be testing for compliance or arranging to meet in-person.
Also, most women are poor at texting.
Twitter is the only place where you'd casually find someone expressing a thought you've been ruminating on for some time with much more clarity than you ever could
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99% of the time a woman you're better than in every area of life will do everything in her power to make you simp for her in order to balance the power in the relationship.
Either that or she'll quickly disengage. The only exception here is a highly secure or submissive woman
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The video explanation of this:
People are surprised they build a life of their own to then realise they cornered themselves in routines that are going to keep themselves alone.
And the person who would supposedly join them have not contributed much if anything to the edifice, so it is harder to build investment, shared history and last but not least meaning to a union.
So not only do people get the older, close to mid life stage individuals who are run down emotionally from all of the effort they undertook by themselves to get there, but the energy reeks of desperation, so for all of the tangible wins, it feels like an intangible L getting with that person.
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If there is a "pandemic of men hitting 30s and 40s and still unmarried" does that not mean there is a corresponding "pandemic of women hitting menopause and still unmarried?"
If yes, why are women, renowned for their selfishness, seemingly more concerned about a so-called male pandemic.
Why is a woman framing it as a male problem rather than a female one?
Because framing it as a female pandemic exposes the desperation of the author and by extension, women, for marriage.
Desperation because
1. Women are not the initiators of marriage. Men are. Women choose boyfriends. Men choose wives
2. Women have a narrower reproductive window, and past 30, their sexual market value nosedives so they desperately need a man to marry them before then.
And failure to secure a husband beyond that point, leads to desperation.
So a "pandemic" of unmarried men, by logical implication, means a pandemic of unmarried women - and being unmarried past 30 is an existential dread for women.
So when the quoted author talks about an "unmarried male pandemic", it is not because she cares about men.
No. Women do not care about men.
It is because she cares about herself, and if men are not getting married, she fears that no man will marry her.
Especially considering she has passed her prime.
In other words, she is lamenting what a 'pandemic' of unmarried men means for her, but she cannot frame it that way without exposing her insecurities.
Because to describe unmarried women as a pandemic would be to acknowledge that women crave marriage from men yet men are increasingly reluctant to offer it.
Especially considering we live in a feminist culture that claims marriage is a tool of patriarchal oppression.
So it would expose the uncomfortable reality that she specifically, and women like her, broadly speaking who are past their prime, desire marriage desperately but are still unmarried because no man has chosen to marry them
Or oppress them.
So she reverses the framing.
Instead of presenting women as the ones anxious about not being married, she presents men as the ones suffering from not marrying.
Hence "male pandemic"
Instead of acknowledging female anxiety, she has diagnosed a male crisis.
Instead of saying "we are worried that men are not marrying us", she says, "I am concerned for men who are not married"
This, like the "male loneliness epidemic" trope, is rhetorical abracadabra that portrays women's anxieties as a compassionate concern for men's welfare.
It is a personal fear camouflaged as an altruistic concern
Insightful
I've been thinking a lot about this phenomenon the last few days.
Why are women increasingly preferring to date guys who are hot, but aren't successful?
The "women prefer the bad boy" angle is wrong. A guy who is loaded and powerful is not less of a bad boy than a guy who is unemployed - quite the opposite. We are not talking about the dichotomy between a dull provider and an exciting brokie. We're talking about guys who have all their shit together + looks + game losing out to guys who are losers.
This is not "female nature." Women in no time in history have ever preferred these types of guys, until now. Powerful men with confidence and balls have ALWAYS been the most attractive.
So what's changed?
What's changed is that a guy who is powerful and successful scares women increasingly, because guys who have their shit together demand more of them - both in the moment, and presumably long term. A hot guy who is unemployed and has no future is safe for her to spend time with, because he has no expectations of her. She can use him, safely. She does not need to worry about blowing anything valuable up or falling short. In other words, she does not have to worry about getting rejected slotted as a woman who doesn't deserve something better.
It's a different story for guys with power and status; especially when these guys want families. Now women are implicitly being vetted for their longterm viability, or at least how much they hold up to him.
If the hot loser doesn't want to see her again, he's a loser - who cares. If the hot entrepreneur worth a few million doesn't, it's because she isn't on his level.
This is the same reason women - when they do date successful guys - increasingly play extractive games with them. They need the validation of a powerful man paying for them, both to reassure her of his interest in her, but also to (in her mind) level the playing field with power.
In other words, women are behaving like this because they have serious intimacy issues and low confidence in themselves. Do not be confused by the overt entitlement and self-centeredness; this is the overcompensation that confirms what's actually going on under the surface. They know on some level they bring very little to the table but sex, and they have given this away for cheap so many times they don't even really believe themselves it's worth anything.
This is indeed why women are blowing up more and more budding relationships with men, even when there is no plausible reason to. They tell themselves it's their own high standards, but it's really they opposite: they've used and been used so many times, their self-worth is terrible. They just don't think they deserve a good man's investment... so they find some ridiculous pretext to end things with him. She then either goes celibate to "work on herself," or rebounds onto a guy who treats her like trash.
Obviously, not all women are like this - because it is not female nature; it's the nature of the spiritually diseased, modern woman. But it's become enough of an epidemic almost every single man will date a girl who crashes and burns like this, at least a couple of times.
If women want better romantic outcomes, the ball is in their court to self-confront and face their own behavior. If they want queenly treatment, they need to comport themselves in such a way. Established men are at a such a point of disillusionment and disgust over what they're seeing - the time they've wasted - that I know many are preferring to take a wholly transactional route than attempt to treat your average modern women like anything worth expending emotional energy on.
Lol don't be too quick to pass judgement on something you don't understand or haven't yet experienced, lest you get to that stage and do worse than what you criticised.
Life has a strange way of humbling people and making them eat their words.
Take your wife to a hotel and have sex with her. You can’t be someone’s mentor at 40 years, then found carrying a 20 year old uni girl to a hotel by your mates. It’s embarrassing.
See guys, what will spice up your marriage is sex. Yes your wife has kids, yes she’s gained weight but when was the last time you took her to a hotel alone, without the kids.
Experiment.
September, book a date and take her to the hotel and have sex.
October, book a date and take her to the hotel and have sex.
November. Book a date. Lol you’ll realize your wife has bought some spicy dress for the bedroom as a surprise. You’ll start seeing that side of her. Just like that. Women are desirous of intimacy with their lifelong partners.
December. Book another hotel date. Guess what? You’ll notice she’s losing a bit of weight. Yes she wants to look good in the dresses she’s gotten for the hotel dinner date knowing she can now take pictures and proudly post. Now your wife is getting social validation and good sex.
All these things you can do and have peace at home. But you’ll rather stress yourself with a sugar baby who’s more expensive, will waste your money, ask for gifts on top and you’ll even risk sicknesses because you’re definitely not the only man.
Go and have sex with your wife.
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i never knew there was an actual term for this:
epistemic loneliness is a cognitive form of isolation that happens when you cannot share complex ideas, inner thoughts, or meaningful perspectives because you lack a willing, able, or understanding conversational partner.
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the problem is not the "taboo"
it also is not because men are told
not to cry
neither is it that men are told
to hide their pain
the main problem is that most men
sacrifice for many
but receive very little affection
this is what makes them cry
when they're shown affection
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Nothing in this world is able to make the most intelligent of men think and behave stupidly like religion and politics.
Many brilliant people suddenly lose their critical thinking and analytical skills the moment they are required to scrutinise their religion or party.
🤯🤯🤯🤯
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This is what Big Tech is doing to African Nations before our very eyes via the AI means of production - enabled by corrupt “stomach-direction” politicians. Creating literal Banana Republics.
We tried to warn you. You are still letting it happen. Oh well 🤷🏾♂️
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The curse of discipline is that every day looks the same. The curse of indiscipline is that every year does.
